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Your Questions About Stop Jealousy Now
Mary asks…
how to stop my jealousy now??? & raise my self esteem??? HELP PLEASE!!!?
i get really jealous about girls/models on tv when my boyfriend and i are watching and i was wondering if theres any advice or any good books etc. that anyone can recommend for me to check out because right now i’d try just about anything, we’ve been together for one year ten months and i think i just need to raise my self esteem but i don’t really know how to do that either…
Stop Being Jealous answers:
I dont know if u will like this, but it really helped me:
it’s a book called, ‘being a girl’
wirtten by…..ummmmm I cant remember, some famous actress who was in sex in the city?
Sorry to be so vaugue, but look it up on ebay or amazong or something, it’s really gd!
Susan asks…
Stupid jealousy, how do i stop this now! Please help?
Hello im 23 years old. I have 2 children. 1 kid from a previous marriage(he cheated on me) and a 9 month old from my current boyfriend of a year and a half. I was a little jealous in the beginning of thinking he is looking at some other girl but lately it is getting out of hand and i cant help the way i feel. He always talks to me about how he’s not liking this situation and why i worry all the time. He’s a great guy. Doesnt drink, smoke, party. He works and comes home to me. Just today for instance he went to the dentist and he came home telling me how it went saying some young girl was just talking to him about his teeth and he was asking her questions..and i got jealous worried he thought she looked good. I know its not about looks and he tells me all the time i look good. I dont look like i have had 2 kids at all. Im a size 7 and i just am extremely jealous over stupid stuff like this. Whenever he brings up a girls name i tend to act funny. How do i stop this. Why do i think like this when i know he would never hurt me! Its bugging me. I trust him, i just dont want him to think other females look good i guess…. Why am i so jealous?
Stop Being Jealous answers:
You’re bound to be a little insecure after being cheated on when you were married, but unwarranted jealousy can do much damage to a relationship. I would suggest you keep the lines of communication wide open between you and your guy so you are both free to share what is bothering you. Counseling would be a good idea, although I realize people are quick to suggest this without consideration as to whether you can afford it – been there, done that, NOT cheap. Maybe there is a clinic with a sliding fee scale, or maybe you could talk to your clergyman if you attend church, they are trained as counselors, too. Keep trying and good luck!
Richard asks…
ok! Now that I know its jealousy, how do I stop it?
And its definitely because of sibling jealousy. My parents actually gave(still do) them more attention and I don’t think blaming them would do me any good now that I’m 23. Talking to them sucks, I’ve indicated and even directly told them this thing but you know how parents think they’re always right and I come out as demanding and the always fighting types. And I do have a bad personality. Low self esteem, aggressive, overly critical, always trying to undermine others, wanting everything, comparing to others, trying to prove how someone else’s success is nothing or just lucky. Its all coming out from trying to prove myself to my parents but its still there and it sucks. I can’t stop getting irritated of someone doing good somewhere(even though its noting related to me), appreciating is so hard. What do I do? How can I learn to mind my own business?
Stop Being Jealous answers:
Just concentrate on yourself.
Why care about others? Don’t get it.
Nancy asks…
How do I stop being so jealous?
Not long after me & one of my exes broke up, we became friends with benefits.We’ve stopped that now, but everytime he tells me he’s got another girl to fool around with I get so jealous & start getting mad at him & calling him a manwhore & stuff. I feel so protective. I’m in a relationship now so I’ve got to stop this jealousy. How do I do it?
Stop Being Jealous answers:
Everytime ur calling him a manhoe think about how ur calling urself pretty much the same. Love the guy ur with and thats all ..
Chris asks…
my boyfriend gets really jealous when im out with friends without him.what can i do to make his jealousy stop?
we’ve been together for almost 2 years now and i love him very much its just sometimes his jealousy gets out of hand. i know a lot of guys get jealous with things like that but he doesn’t just get jealous it ends up getting us into a fight.
He tells me he rather me not tell him when i go out with my girlfriends but i don’t want to lie to him. does anyone have any advice on what i should do about this?
Stop Being Jealous answers:
I am the exact same way.. Like i was with my girlfriend for 2 years to and that was always a huge problem.. Theres nothing you can do.. Except not do that and make a rule so he cant either he will love that
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Is it jealousy or low self-esteem?
Everytime my husband and I go out I see a pretty girl dressed and looking better than me I get mad at my husband. I accuse him of looking at her and go off. He gets mad at me and we argue until I cry. Can this be that I am too jealous or have very low self-esteem? I feel I will loose him to a thinner and prettier girl than me, eventhough he says I am the only one he loves.Please help!!!!
You are just too insecure… Love yourself girl. 
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Viewer Question: Should I leave her if she loves him more?
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A viewer asks whether or not he should stay in a relationship in which his girlfriend has admitted she loves someone else more. His self esteem and the lack thereof is the real issue.
Duration : 0:2:30
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Extremely low self esteem and family aren’t making it better…?
I totally know I shouldnt care about body image when im 13 years old but I can’t help it…i look around me at school and all i see are skinny skinny skinny! And they are all stuffing themselves with pizza, chocolate and crisps…
I eat pretty healthy, and I get atleast 20-30 mins cardio a day but I feel like a jelly bag when I see myself in the mirror.
I used to think that my waist was small but now im not sure.
And also I’ve got saddlebags and big thighs!! My mum is the same shape as me and shes constantly insulting it!!! That really knocks my self esteem!!
I feel so jealous of people like salma hayek with miniscule waists and big boobs even after childbirth when shes 40!!!!
I feel way bigger than my friends….
bust: 36"
waist: 26.5-27"
hips (around saddlebags): 37-38"
:’-(
whats ur opinion…….
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty isn’t all about skinny and slim waists and big boobs Plus you’re growing, you’re still 13. It is probably just a phase. If you just continue to eat healthy, you’ll be in good shape.
Also, if you start to look at yourself in a better light and not think of yourself as a "jelly bag" and look in that mirror and think positively and love your body, I guarentee that you will be happier. It’s all in the way you look at yourself. It’s very important for your self esteem.
Have some confidence!
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Obsessed With Myself – Parody of Obsessed by Mariah Carey
So I absolutly HATE this song so I’m making a decent version of it. And if anyone comments about how Mariah is SO much better looking than me, or that she sings better, or whatever, I’M JUST HAVING FUN! I don’t claim to sing good. Just shut up and listen to the the lyrics. They’re the good part. Anyway, here are the lyrics:
And I’m like, why am I so obsessed with me?
So Oh Oh So Ohhh
Look in the mirror
I’m so fine
And I’m not gonna make it on time
‘Cause I look at myself and I can’t look away
My room is filled with pics of me
You say I’m not – but I’m too vain
And no one here mentions my name
‘Cause I’m too cool, ’cause I’m too vain
‘Cause you be jealous, yeah, you be jealous
Ohh, why am I so obsessed with me?
I don’t really know
It must be this beautiful face and if you don’t like it
You don’t have good sense in taste
Ohh, never found a boy that I couldn’t impress
Only girl on the earth that all boys wanna kiss
I am beautiful, I am beautiful
You don’t have to tell me
I am super fine, totally define
You wanna look like me
You say I’m ugly and stupid but I know you’re just jealous
I love myself with such zealous
Oh, oh, oh, why am I so obsessed with me?
Oh, oh, ohhh
Oh, oh, ohhh
I’m so vain
Oh, oh, ohhh
Oh, oh, ohhh
I am so vain
Obsessed
Obsessed
Obsessed
I love myself so so much
See this hair? Yeah, you can’t touch
And this eye? It ain’t a contact
And my smell is what you lack
Tellin’ the world you really hate me
But that’s ’cause I said you can’t date me
Callin’ myself, talkin’ for hours
I truly swear, I got super powers!
Ohh, why am I so obsessed with me?
I don’t really know
It must be this beautiful face and if you don’t like it
You don’t have good sense in taste
Ohh, never found a boy that I couldn’t impress
Only girl on the earth that all boys wanna kiss
I am beautiful, I am beautiful
You don’t have to tell me
I am super fine, totally define
You wanna look like me
You say I’m ugly and stupid but I know you’re just jealous
I love myself with such zealous
Oh, oh, oh, why am I so obsessed with me?
Oh, oh, ohhh
Oh, oh, ohhh
I’m so vain
Oh, oh, ohhh
Oh, oh, ohhh
I am so vain
Obsessed
Obsessed
Obsessed
Duration : 0:3:26
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How do i raise my self-esteem..?
I am not confident enough with myself..
I get really jealous with this guy who my best friends met.. Hes good at everything.. So my friends might chose him rather than me..
how do i raise my self-esteem so that i wont feel intimidated and will feel good about myself and not feel out of place..???
positive self-talk does a lot for people. keep repeating that you CAN do something. not only that, sit down somewhere quiet, close your eyes, slow yours breaths and then picture yourself in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in, take in and recognize all of the emotions you feel when you recognize you aren’t comfortable. then you can go two ways. i would suggest doing both of these because it helps you get to know yourself and your limits and potential better but its personal choice. once you’ve realized what makes you nervous about something, change the picture in your head. Instead of feeling nervous, picture yourself being confident, repeating "I am strong, I am confident"
(or something along those lines) and then picture yourself succeeding in the situation you were nervous in. imagine how you would feel to be able to not be intimidated, didn’t feel out of place etc.
another thing to do might be to think about what your place should be for you. its normal to feel out of place but recognizing if it really should bother you or not goes a long way to feeling more confident.
good luck. and remember, you are worth it. You can do it. and, you are not alone.
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how can i stop comparing myself to others and how can i handle jealousy?
I know the only problem that i had a very low self esteem is because I tend to compare myself to others that is better than me and sometimes I have to admit that i get jealous of the skill that they have which I dont have
Yes, that happens to me too. I compare myself to my friends all the time and I get jealous of their abilities. You know how I cope with this? My friends tells me things that they don’t show to the public eye all the time. They have their own faults and low self esteem times too. They sometime tells me that they are jealous of me! The people you compare yourself to, and is jealous of, they are not what they appear to be. They may have a lot of issues inside themselves that you don’t know of. Don’t always judge people for their appearance, look deeper and you’ll see faults, not everybody’s perfect you know. Why don’t you stop comparing yourself so much? And don’t give me excuses to why you can’t stop. I don’t care. If you care enough about yourself, then there would be nothing that can stop you from loving yourself. I bet you have a lot of skills that not many people have. This is a great way I learned from a book I’m reading to increase self esteem. First you write down all the negative things about yourself onto toilet paper. After you finished your list, you flush it down the toilet. Then you write down all the good things about yourself onto a sheet of writing paper then tape it up next to your mirror. You’ll see it each day to remind yourself about things you love about yourself. Whether it’s your courage, loyalty, hair, or eyes, or whatever, you’ll be reminded everyday. Remember, all the negative things you flushed down the toilet is to remind you that you can forget about those things.
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Have you noticed that married people who are insecure are usually overweight or have low self-esteem?
I had a conversation about this topic this weekend. I myself am overweight for my height so I am not picking on anybody in particular. It just seems that whenever you hear a person say their husband/wife is jealous and controlling and always accusing them of cheating … it is because they are overweight or have very low self-esteem.
You don’t typically see or hear of women that look like Beyonce or Eva Longoria worrying that their man is straying. What are your thoughts?
Just for the record, I also have low self-esteem … I think.
ummm, have you checked out halle barry. a woman of all kind to be considered "fine"
and let’s see, her first husband beat her @$$, wesley snipes hit her in the ear and caused her to lose her hearing,
eric benet, cheated on her throughout their marriage.
and now finally she finds love with a man 10 years younger than her (hopefully it works)
in essence, i am saying being overweight and little self esteem does not cause you to be insecure. what makes you insecure is being constantly cheated on and not being valued as a woman in the relationship.
even if lost the weight you want which might lead some self esteem, he would have found a reason to cheat.
and you mentioned beyonce, wasn’t jayz accused of having a baby with free (from 106 and park).
as you can see looks has nothing to do with insecurity.
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Jealousy and self esteem issues?
Simple – I’m jealous of my ex’s new girlfriend. He was a tool, and a liar. But I still feel I wasn’t good enough for him, and think all the reasons this new girl is.
It’s really lowering my self esteem.
I know I shouldn’t be jealous, they deserve each other. But it still makes me feel like crap.
How do I stop feeling jealous and sad, and boost my self esteem back?
You’ve already taken a huge step.
You see that your ex is a prick and you realize that you’re feeling down because of self-esteem issues. That’s awesome. Just a quick wade through other questions and you’ll see a lot of women who think that means they still love the guy, completely oblivious of their insecurity and how it affects them.
Going forward, the most important thing you need to understand is that self-esteem and self-worth have the "self-" bit in there for a reason: They are things that you have to give yourself.
So ask yourself whether or not you like who you are as a person, whether you’re comfortable with yourself and think you deserve to have George Clooney and Johnny Depp fighting over you.
- Accept the things you have no control over.
Feeling bad about being short or not having perfect skin is about as silly as looking at a bird and feeling bad about not being able to fly. I mean, there’s really no point at all even thinking about that stuff, and you should laugh at yourself whenever you catch yourself doing it.
- Change the things you do have control over.
The one most people in the U.S./Britain have a problem with is their weight. Ignore the "fat acceptance" movement. I’ve worked in health care for years, and have a serious metabolic disorder myself. I maintain a healthy weight. I’ve known diabetics, amputees, developmentally disabled, and all sorts of other folks who manage to keep fit. It’s neither easy nor fast, but the results are incredible (you feel great both physically and emotionally).
This applies for everything else, too. Not happy with your job? Start taking classes (online or part-time) that will start you on the road to a better one. Don’t have enough friends? Find new friends through existing ones, volunteer at shelters/other organizations (you meet A TON of good people this way, and it’s also a feel-good experience), and so on. Change, or start yourself on the path towards changing, everything you’re unhappy about.
Keep doing those things until you can say "I am freaking awesome."
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What are the consequences to sleeping around, in regards to self esteem, dignity and other consequences?
I like to think things through a lot. If a girl sleeps around with a lot of guys, could she be murdered by a jealous guy or be stalked or attacked? Does it have effects on your self esteem, dignity and confidence and does it give you a bad reputation? Do guys tell everyone they slept with you?
And do you have loss of dignity and self respect and when she wants to settle down with a nice guy, is it hard for her to find one and what would a nice guy think of a girl like this? Would he look twice at her?
If a girl sleeps with a group of guy friends, what would the consequences be.
Sorry for all the qs. There is a group of guy friends who I went out with, I was thinking it will be fun to sleep around with them, all 24 of them. What would the consequences of my actions be?
No Rockstar, my daddy never did show me any affection or even touch me or hug me.
24???
wow you’re a whore lol
You’d probably get a few STD’s and may get pregnant.
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