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Your Questions About How To Stop Being So Angry With My Boyfriend

Jenny asks…

What should i do to make my boyfriend stop being angry?

He always fights with me. He never start the chat first. He will reply only if I send a message. He won’t recieve my calls properly and tells that he was busy and couldn’t talk.

Don’t give any advices to break up with him. I love him and he loves me back. Just tell some ideas so that he loves me more like how he did in the past.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Poi kalyanam panniru … Avlo daan… Avana aprom kailaye pudika mudiyadu … Naa vena poi unakaga pesatuma di ?

Ruth asks…

How to stop my boyfriends snoring?

It drives me mad! I get so angry I then struggle to sleep even more.
I’ve make him try, breath easy strips, sprays, sleeping on his side with a pillow between the legs, on his back with his head elevated and of course a good old kick and shove!
He’s been sent to s GP and has no medical problems.
Please help!

Stop Being Jealous answers:

The first thing you should do to deal with snoring is find out what is the real cause of snoring. Snoring may be caused by several factors and each type of snoring requires different types of treatment as well. There is a web-site http://snoringremediescenter.com/ – that offers free personalized online stop snoring plan maker, so that you can set up personalized stop snoring plan for your boyfriend.

William asks…

what can i do to stop my boyfriend being so controlling and angry?

my boyfriend, who i have been faithful for the 7 years i have been with him, has started to ban me from talking to certain people. I am an indepandent woman, i make my own money, and have not even always lived in the same city as my bf, so am used to dealing with guys etc by myself. Now he wants to be with my on every occasion i could talk to another person, and accuses me of flirting. Firstly he tried to ban me from a girl i met and really like, because he confided in her he was planning on moving away with another girl, he says she broke his trust. He doesn’t want me to spend time with her, even though she is my only girlfriend in the new country we live in. This happened when i dumped him for arranging a meeting for sex with someone else. he has even banned me for talking to an 18 yr old (i am 26) and any other males really. I don’t understand why he is this way, when he is the only person who has strayed. how do i convince him i am to be trusted and hate being controlled so much?
i have tried talking to him, but he says thats just the way it is going to be, and flies of the handle if i go on. he says i have no loyalty to him. the 18 year old in question flirted with me a little whn he was drunk, then apologised profusley later, and i told my bf this.
can someone else please report the sickening ‘answer’ left by aryan sweet so it is removed? it takes 2 complaints to get it deleted.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Ok. I had a 4 year relationship with a very controlling man (who turned out to be mentally ill and actually died of a brain haemorrage in the end, seriously, but that’s not the point!) so I think I know a thing or 2 about this.

1) People are controlling due to their own insecurities.
2) Normally this is because the person they are trying to control has let them down, decieved or hurt them in some way so the trust has gone, OR, someone in their past has done this to them so they find it hard to trust anyone.
3) Occassionally (as in the case with my former partner) it’s because they themselves are up to no good and because they know they are capable of cheating and lying, they cannot comprehend that someone else wouldn’t be either. They have very little self worth and find it important to make sure that their “partner” becomes as insecure and has a low self esteem as them. They are convinced they are not “good enough” for someone who has high self esteem (and who therefore is approached by other members of the opposite sex) and so controlling and accusing them of things helps to beat the esteem out of their partner.

I would ask this question: Does he accuse you often of cheating? Does he lie himself? If you question him, does he accuse you of being paranoid?

If you answer yes to these questions I would seriously get out of the relationship, cos it will not change believe me. You have been with him a long time, but however long you are with him for, it will take you at least twice as long to get over psychologically so remember that. You are worth more and what he’s doing is not love ok. Good luck. Xox

Nancy asks…

how do i stop being angry each time my boyfriend falls asleep and doesn’t call me?

my boyfriend and i have been in a long distance relationship for 1.5 years and although its tough, we’re both very committed to each other. to stay connected, we call each other every morning and end the day with a phonecall before going to bed.

the problem is that every so often, he falls asleep and doesn’t call me. and each time he’s done this (happens every couple of months), it completely drives me bonkers. in most other aspects (namely the important stuff) he is a wonderful man, but this flakiness is something i can’t stand. i just feel like since he knows this is a problem and a sore point with me, he should figure out a way to not have it happen again.

but when it does happen, he will call the next day apologizing profusely and trying to cheer me up. when this first started happening, i would chew him out and he would try really hard not to do it again. but inevitably it would happen again. i’m now at the point where i act like a cold sullen b*tch to him the following day because i’m so upset by it. it takes me a day to get over it and we’re fine again…until the next time.

i know that he doesn’t mean to fall asleep (i’ve seen him dozing off accidently when i come visit and we lounge around) so it’s not like i think he’s cheating on me. but when it happens, i just can’t act like everything’s all good because i feel like i’m condoning his behavior.

this isn’t something i would leave him for but i just don’t know how to deal with the anger. i’m wondering if any of you out there have any practical advice for handling something like this. i’m sure your significant others forget to do things that drive you up the wall. how have you dealt with it?
thanks to those who are providing actual suggestions for my question. they are very helpful and i am honestly looking for ways to manage my annoyance and improve my relationship. i am moving to my bf’s state once my job is secured there so the falling asleep calling thing won’t be an issue. i’m just trying to figure out what to do in the meantime.

everyone else who made judgement calls on who i am and what my relationship is like either has no clue on what work is involved in keeping a long distance relationship strong or is in denial that they also have irrational things that annoy/anger them.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Sounds like you’re making a mountain outta a molehill. Tsk… You do have an anger problem and you’re also lacking in patience. You should be grateful that he wasn’t in a serious accident and taken to the hospital emergency room. It’s wrong to get so upset over issues that you don’t have any control over. You should tell yourself that these things will happen, occasionally and you’re mature enough to accept that and make the best of it. After all, it’s only temporary. When this problem is solved, you’ll find something else to be upset about, no doubt.

Laura asks…

how do i stop being so angry when my boyfriend screws up?

i will start by saying that my boyfriend is the most loving, loyal, thoughful, and devoted man i know. the problem i’m having is that he’s not reliable. he says he’ll do things that he forgets 5 seconds later because he accidentally fell asleep or it just slipped his mind. he doesn’t pay attention to details (which is evident when he tells stories where the events are out of order or doesn’t remember what was said). sometimes unfortunate things will happen to him (like losing important things or sending gifts or bills late) and when he initially explains why, it sounds like he screwed things up. but after hounding him, he’ll finally share some detail that would shed light on the situation and would have made me less angry if i had known that detail from the beginning.

he recognizes that this is a problem and is working on paying more attention to detail. in the same vein, i recognize that i have a problem with being too harsh on him when these things happen. (luckily, we are very open in communicating, so we’ve discussed much of this)

the problem i have is that i’m starting to see him as a screw-up rather than see him as a man who occassionally makes honest mistakes. i don’t like that when something goes wrong, i automatically think it’s because he screwed up rather than giving him the benefit of the doubt.

i’m sure most of you out there have that one person (be it your mom, sibling, or significant other) whom when something bad happens, you just assume that it’s their fault rather than trying to understand the circumstances around the situation.

i hate feeling that way about my boyfriend but i don’t know how to change that. it’s not as easy as saying “don’t be mad” or “give him the benefit of the doubt” because if i could have done that on my own, i wouldn’t be dealing with this right now.

does anyone have any practical way of changing this perspective?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Well you can try these:-

Write the chores on a Post-It Pad & stick it at places that is viewable to your boyfriend…

i) like the miror of the dressing table
ii) refrigerator
iii) stick it at his laptop / on his laptop screen

By doing so he’ll be able to know what is his “to do chores for the day” .
And chances of him forgetting his chores are thin.

If your boyfriend owns a PDA…
Then you can add the chores to his calendar / schedule & set it with a reminder
And even if he forgets his tasks… he’s PDA will reminds him of his chores

•I’m pretty much forgetful myself…
•So the above said methods are the ways I keep up with
…my ‘memory’

As for your anger…

Don’t get mad.
Get smart

Good Luck

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Your Questions About Poems About Jealousy In Relationships

Charles asks…

What can I wear to recite a sad love poem in literature class???

I need to find an outfit to recite tomorrow a poem by Sor Juana Inés de la Cruz, titled “Esta Tarde, Mi Bien.” It’s about how jealousy ruins a relationship…My teacher insists on making the reciting a little more “theaterical”
Ideas???

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Do you have a long-sleeved, scoop-necked black dress? The one I’m thinking of would be long–ankle-length–probably a cotton-rayon blend or a cotton-poly blend. It could have a little shine to it but not much. You don’t want it to hug your legs, but you don’t want it to be full either, so maybe one that just hangs naturally off your hips. I would go for the dress, though, since it’s a bout a relationship. Just wear plain black flats, just pull your hair back or go with a wash-and-go look, and minimal make-up–no jewelry. Unless there’s a part in the poem where you want to take a ring off and fling it across the room–that’s pretty dramatic.

George asks…

PLEASE HELP ME with Andreas Capellanus?

Did Andreas Capellanus write the four obligations of a knight in a poem? If so, please give me a link to find them, or site the book you found them in MLA format. I have a HUGE research paper due on courtly love and I am trying to find reliable sources and topics to expand on. I need 5 pages, right now I only have 2. Some things I am expanding on are: secrecy, the unability to attain, relationships were not always sexual, jealousy, and the rule by A.C.-No one can be bound by a double love.
Also, if you know what story in which 2 identical knights switch places for about 2 years and one of the knights puts his sword between himself and the other knight’s wife, please tell me.

Thank you for helping,
Rachel

Stop Being Jealous answers:

I’ve never read much about your topic but I think these links might help you with your research paper. Good luck with it.

Ruth asks…

TEEN RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM? HELP ME PLEASE? suicide involved.?

Okay so i have two friends. Alexa and John. They are both teenagers. John is a lot more in love with the Alexa than she is with him. They have been together twice already. The first time they broke up was because of the John’s ex, Danielle. His ex is constantly in his mind, and when he moves onto another girl, Danielle gets jealous and tries to seduce him by kisses, flaunting, sexual talk etc. He, obviously finding her attractive, falls for it. Danielle does not like the girls he moves onto, she didn’t like Alexa and she would even tell him so. However, when he falls for the Danielle’s tricks, she’s only doing this out of jealousy and when she is successful in breaking up his current relationship, she moves on herself and leaves him stranded. This was why they broke up the first time. However, when he realized what Danielle was doing to him, he ran back to Alexa, he missed her, he claimed to love her and said he was stupid. So Alexa gave John another chance and they got back together. They were fine for a while, until Danielle found out about this. Now Danielle and John had a fight over her playing with his head like that and didn’t talk for a while. John and Danielle go to school together, they see each other everyday. Alexa goes to a school far away from his, so they barely see each other and are limited to text and msn communication. John still has feelings for Danielle deep down, but Danielle is just mischievous and jealous and likes to mess with him. So the second time around when they were together, things were going well. But when Danielle would see John at school everyday, she would be tempted to hurt him again just to satisfy herself. So she did. She repeated herself again and he fell for it. Alexa and John were having their own problems and he saw Danielle as comfort and that she would “always be there”, especially when Alexa wasn’t. Whenever Alexa and John talked, he ALWAYS brought up Danielle. It started to annoy her and her friends. They had a fight one day, and with John thinking “oh i still have Danielle”, he ended the relationship, again. The next day, Alexa saw pictures oh him and Danielle on facebook of him kissing her and holding her. She checked the date of the pictures and they were taken while her and John were still together! She confronted him and forgave him thinking that “he simply can’t help it and at least I’m out of the relationship”. He felt like an idiot. He thought that he hurt the only girl he ‘really loved’, and started hating himself. He wouldn’t talk to anyone, laugh and claimed he was going to kill himself over and over. He felt like a dumb failure and disappointed in himself. He begged for Alexa back, but she was tired of his obsession over his ex. Then again, she still likes John a whole lot, and can’t help to feel butterflies around him. Plus she was worried about him, because he decided he wanted to kill himself in a river at a fixed time and date and everything. He wrote her poems and cried several nights, but she was not that deep in love, but she still cared. He is not as suicidal as before but is still considering it if Alexa disappoints him with her ‘decision’ to take him back or not. She still likes him but has honestly lost hope for him and trust. Up to this day he is still awaiting her decision, he is still sad but hopes that she’ll forgive him. He promised her that he would get over his ex, Danielle, but he also has twice before, and failed. Alexa doesn’t know what to say, she wants John but the John she met, not this complicated one. He is overly dramatic but claims to love her and that he will try. But they’re no guarantees because we can’t tell the future right? Should she take him back or move on? This will risk his health and increase his depression. But if they get back together, this may hurt her or put her in the same state. WHAT SHOULD THEY DO? SUGGESTIONS OR ADVICE PLEASE!

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Tell Alexa to leave him, I mean she gave him chances before and he blew it, especially with the pictures on facebook. Sounds like a douchebag but then again he is falling for her harder than he should. While John says he’s going to kill himself and specifies exactly when how and where, if he really were, he would’ve done it already. Tell Alexa to have a talk with him about how she can’t be with him until they can really be together like going to the same school or seeing each other very often. Not being able to see each other often makes one VERY susceptible to cheat. So tell him it’s not that you don’t want to be with him, it just isnt a good time and situation and it will keep happening until the situation changes when yall live closer to each other. Its not your fault if he kills himself and if you tell him this then its outright selfish.

Jenny asks…

Can someone assist me with my English essay?

Can someone help me proof the first part of my essay(Rough draft). I have to about the similarities and differences relationships between the Proctors of “The Crucible” and Anne Bradstreet”To My Dear and Loving husband”. I also have to write at the end which relationship is closer to god.

Oh yeah, Can someone help me with my intro?I didn’t know how to start it sucks! here ya go though.

“The crucible” and “To my dear & loving husband” are different in many ways. However, both share similarities also. It’s no doubt, The narrator in Anne Bradstreet’s “To my dear and Loving husband” has a stronger affection for her husband and a better relationship than the one between John and Elizabeth proctor in the crucible.

In “To My Dear and Loving Husband” The narrator explains in many ways the devotion she feels towards her husband. “In the line “My Love is such that rivers cannot quench, Nor ought but love from thee,give recompense. Thy love is such I can no way repay, the heavens reward the man fold I pray”.She implies that none of the rivers in the world cannot quench the passion of her love for her husband. Her love is ever lasting. Also, even when both her husband and her pass, their love will live on.

Moreover, Bradstreet’s pride and boasting is shown in line 5 of the poem ” I prize thy love more than the whole mines of gold.” Meaning, their love is more special than gold and other woman should admire the love her husband and she share.

On the other hand, In “The Crucible” John Proctor and Elizabeth Proctor are dealing with marital problems. Though, The Proctors are a well respected couple in the Puritan community behind close doors their marriage is strained. Elizabeth Proctor has just found out her husband has been having a secret affair with Abigail Williams. It’s clear that the proctors relationship lacks and trust and contains loads of jealousy. As time goes by, Elizabeth Proctor suspects Abigail of deceit so that she may have John Proctor whom she loves, to herself. John becomes angry with the fact Elizabeth can’t forgive the infidelity John has caused.

During Act IV, After 3 months of being separated Elizabeth Proctor stops judging her husband and takes the blame on her shoulders. “It takes a cold wife to prompt lechery” – where she admits her part in the infidelity. Despite that, Elizabeth still loves her husband dearly. At the end of the story, The couple makes peace with the past and forgive each other. At that moment, Elizabeth admits she wasn’t a loving wife, instead, she was cold to John. Due to low self esteem and also, thoughts of her being unlovable. Though, it’s too late to talk things out when John is in the mist of being hanged.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Okayyyy.
Well first of all in an essay, especially English, it’s really important that you understand underlying themes of a text. So rather than all out just stating ‘well in these texts’ a good way to start an introduction is to restate the question. The basic essay format that’s helped me throughout allll my schooling years and get A’s for basically all my papers is as follows:

Introduction:
1. Restate the question: it’s important to rearrange the language and show you understand a deeper analytical aspect of the texts. This also helps you in actually answering the question. People often go off on their own tangent about the texts and fail to meet the demands of the question. Continuously intertwine your question throughout your essay using it’s key terminology so you’re always linking your essay content back to the question.

2. Introduce your points. This is a comparative study of texts focusing on the characters and how their relationships are intertwined and upheld by the basic fundamentals by all characters in the book. I have extensively studied The Crucible, but I haven’t even touched “To my dear and loving husband” so I’m afraid I can’t really help you there. It’s just important that you thoroughly COMPARE the two texts. Some points you could introduce here is the instability of Proctor and Elisabeth’s relationship, and the inner conflict of Proctors affair with Abigail. Identifying layers in text is really going to get you top marks. In the Crucible, there are two key layers. There’s an outer conflict, which is the trials and the accusations of the towns people, and the general hysteria about the devil and questions of who is a goodly Christian and then there is the inner conflict which is the secret conflict between Abigail and Proctor, which is the driving force of the outer conflict. Abigail’s jealousy and Proctors rejection forces her to seek her belonging elsewhere in her power in the church. So talk about the cover-ups they have, but do not do this in the introduction, merely state it.

3. Forecast your conclusion. What are you going to come to at the end of this essay? Essays are supposed to be straight forward and predictable, so don’t go writing a super exciting novel. Just draw your conclusion about who’s relationship is closer to god. With John and Elizabeth, think about the prospect that their relationship is CLOSER, and that the lechery, while ultimately a sin, has made them closer and closer in Christ.

Body’s:
1. Topic sentence/key sentence: What are you trying to claim? Your body points should be each idea you introduced into the introduction. “In “To My Dear and Loving Husband” The narrator explains in many ways the devotion she feels towards her husband. ” this is good if your writing form is purely informative/slightly persuasive. It can be more than one sentence, go on and explain your idea. My teacher always told me to Claim, Explain, Give examples.

2. EVIDENCE! Back your stuff up, use quotes, which you have, remember to reference them correctly that always makes you look like you know what you’re talking about more.

3. Make a general conclusion about your idea, sum’ up what you’ve talked about. This isn’t always necessary, you can blend your bodies together, but paragraphs are of course essential.

Conclusion
1. Restate the question, again! It’s important than when you draw your conclusion you relate it back to the question. Use key terminology from your question and the idea that you’ve decided on. How similar are the relationships, what conclusion have you come to after your analysis, study and comparison of the two relationships?

2. Cover your points briefly again. After you’ve stated what you’ve found say HOW you came about this very briefly, no more than a few sentences. An idea is to state your question and then “This has been shown through” or “shown by”, whatever words take your fancy.

3. Special statement of learning. What has this study taught you about life? English is quite the philosophical subject so it’s good to end on a general note about the texts relevance to life and relationships. However, this is not always the case, in your case it may be better to end with a statement about the texts specifically.

Hope I was helpful :)
Good luck with your essay.

John asks…

How to deal with a jealous (adult) step-daughter?

She is 26 and has a child of her own, her father and me have been dating for almost 4 yrs. Her jealousy resembles that of a child, she dedicates poems, songs to him that talk about daughters instead of dad’s, gives him pictures of both, calls herself daddy’s little girl… she even went as far as to move two doors down to interrupt our privacy, i’ve really tried to have a good relationship, kissed her butt basically, but it seems that the happier we are the more jealous she gets.

She says she adores her dad but aren’t daughters suppose to be happy for their dad’s happiness? she has been disrespectful towards him before for something like him missing her call! and i’ve stood up for him because he allows her to step all over himI got her dad to stop using drugs, cigarettes, become more healthy. I am younger than her, her dad and I have a 20 + age difference but we have a great relationship and the age isn’t an issue at all. His family say i’m the best thing to happen to him- all but her of course. She has stated she hopes we don’t have children, she even went as far as to say he didn’t love her anymore because he didn’t dance with her in a recent wedding ( first time she saw us dance together). I just find this all so unusual- never expected to have to deal with this situation with a grown step-daughter.

she isn’t his biological child, can this have anything to do with it. Btw the whole family also thinks she has issues and behaves childish. We live far from her now but even when we saw her recently she acted cold, non-talkative except from the occasional grabbing him for a pic of them together- sometimes she acts more like a jealous girlfriend! HELP!
Mr. Warrior, No- I do not expect her to call her mommy but to respect me and her father. I have tried everything: babysitting for her, giving her advice, money, inviting her for dinner. We actually we’re really close once until she accused her father of being a bad dad because she called late at night and he didn’t pick up because he was sleeping. I’ve even gone as far as to tell me when she wants to see her dad for me to get out of the house, just so they don’t stop seeing each other! I don’t think anyone my age would do that or any other woman for that matter. and I actually move out of my country without my family or friends for her dad and went into a serious depression. He doesn’t have any $$$ so money isn’t the issue.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

It seems to me that your husband has to set the limits and boundries for her. He wants to be a good father and you are there to be his wife and you have your lifes together. She is going to keep it up because for her it is about control. She wants to have the control in his life. You have to step between them and say enough is enough. If you do not accept that me and your father are married and that is the way it is. She will use anything in her power to have the control.

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Your Questions About How Can I Stop Being Jealous Of My Boyfriends Ex

Donald asks…

How can I stop being jealous of my boyfriends ex?

I know its stupid and its partially to do with my low self esteem. And I already know he’s chosen to be with me. But I can‘t help comparing myself to her. She’s the cliche really pretty, “sweet” looking, bubbly girl. A month before he asked me out, he sent her a message saying he was only just getting over her and hopes they can be friends one day. Shes his first love and he’s mine. He may not be with her now but thats because she broke up with him, and broke his heart. He still finds it really hard to get close to me, despite us now being together for the same amount of time as he was with her. How can I get over my stupid jealousy!!

Stop Being Jealous answers:

I know its really hard, im the same with my boyfriend. Your with him now, he should know that that type of girl isnt the best for him and that you are. You jealously is a sign how much your into him, but you need to learn to let go of HIS past. She may of been his first love, but you can full in love more than once(which is ALWAYS better!) maybe she wasn’t his first love, he just though she was, why don’t you show him just how much he means to you and maybe it turns out your his first true love. I know people say first love is unforgeable and all that, but thats no always true.
If your with him now, your better than her, your stronger than her, and you care about him more than she ever did. So go and prove that!

Richard asks…

I’m so jealous of my boyfriends ex!?

I‘ve been extremely jealous of my boyfriends ex since we started dating.
She’s popular, and she’s so beautiful. She’s a model and there is nothing NOT perfect about her in my eyes.
It bothers me alot, because I feel like my boyfriend is secretly more attracted to her than me.
I feel ugly compared…

How can I stop being jealous?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Kill her and kidnap your boyfriend and use him as your personal sex slave.

Laura asks…

How can I stop being so jealous of his ex!?

It’s driving me insane! My boyfriend has a lot of ex-girlfriends but one in particular gets on my nerves because she…
1.) was his last long-term relationship
2.) met his dad before he died
3.) is often mistaken for his girlfriend when they are together because they both love each other as friends and so they are very touchy-feely. (He told me about this and I was too nervous to tell him that that would make me EXTREMELY uncomfortable if I saw it happen.)
4.) is closer to my age than most of his exes
5.)…and…as pathetic as this sounds…she seems more interesting than me…he talks about her a lot and she’s got more in common with him than I probably do…and she got him to be more open sexually…
6.) she is very attractive

HOW DO I STOP OBSESSING OVER THIS!?!?!??!?!??!?!? I am fully aware of how insane I am being but it’s so hard for me to stop! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A few things I forgot to mention: They dated 3 years ago, it mainly ended because she is polyamourous and he is monogamous.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Your insecurities are getting the better of you, and if you don’t knock it off, you will wind up sabotaging this relationship. All those reasons you listed? Even with all of those, he chose YOU, not HER. If those were such good reasons HE would be with HER and not you. But he isn’t. So if those reasons are not good enough for him to be with her , then why are you making them such a big deal? They obviously are not good enough for him.

Michael asks…

How Can I Stop Being Jealous Over My Ex?

I was dating this 13 year old girl for maybe a week (i am 15 years old) i felt attracted to her at first then i dont know something happened and i just wasn’t attracted to her anymore so i broke up with her.

recently however i considered asking her back out as i guess im sort of a lonely kid.

i find out that she has a new boyfriend who’s 16 which i think is wrong and to make matters worse this guy is a pot smoker and a stoner which i dont think is good for her but i cant really say anything.

recently i‘ve been feeling overly jealous and i normally don’t
how can i stop myself from feeling jealous when i see them at school?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Accept the truth that you are now not part of her life. She is now a thing in the past so whatever business she likes to do with herself is none of your business anymore. Its normal that you feel that way because you and her had a past before and maybe you just missed her but after you decide to part ways with her, you don’t have already the right whatever and whoever she likes to be with. For now, go on with your life to avoid jealousy never mind them. Ok?

Chris asks…

How can I stop being jealous? Paranoid jealous?

Quick summary of the bits you need to know:

My boyfriend had a really bad bout of manic bipolar this past summer. The mania got really bad and he left me then hooked up with a girl from high school that he had started talking to a lot on FB. We got back together said he had changed his ways. I believed him and it was true. Don’t worry about details, just know where I‘m coming from.

Now we’ve been so busy with work and school and family that I feel we’ve grown apart since we haven’t been seeing each other lately. He’s moving into a new apartment, he heard it was available cause it was owned by this acquaintance of his on FB a couple weeks before.

He gets it, Moves in, now when he posts something about it she’s always got 2 cents to put. And is talking about how her ex boyfriend put the dents in the front door, and how he’s jealous of my boyfriend because he’s crazy and thinks they are cheating together.

1) I really don’t like them talking about this all over facebook.
2) I am very jealous and it was the end of me and my boyfriends date night tonight and he reads the newest comment from her and answers it. Then when I‘m telling him goodnight I see that just before he texted me he replied to another one of her comments.

I know he’s not cheating on me, because she moved 2000 miles away. But how can I get rid of this paranoia that he’s going to leave me or she’s trying to pry him away from me. I just find it so rude that they’re discussing cheating and shit all over facebook and I can‘t seem to look away. It’s really upsetting me, which I know is wrong and I want to know how to stop! Should I ask her to not talk about that stuff?
Also I can‘t really confront him about it, because I trust him and I see him trying to steer the convo away but she keeps bringing up details and stuff. And if i were to confront him he would see it as I don’t trust him. I really want to know how to either get rid of this ridiculous paranoid jealousy or how to stop this discussion of theirs if that’s what you feel is necessary.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Jealousy is a useless emotion. It doesn’t help you or the person your involved with. And it looks bad. There’s no concrete advice that’s gonna help you with this powerfully negative emotion. All I can tell you is this..try to care a little less. Whatever happens is going to happen no matter what. And jealousy is only going to give the bearer grief, sadness, and the feeling that your losing control. Why let this person have that much power over you? Be strong and listen to your head not your heart. Unless you wanna continue to surround yourself with never ending drama? Good luck to you

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Your Questions About My Boyfriend Wants To Hang Out With His Friends

Lisa asks…

My boyfriend wants me t hang out with his friends sometimes do i have to?

I really don’t see the point even though there will be other people there as well. I am just so nervous. But still at the same time i do not want to hang out with his friends they never really met me. Because never tried to meet them in person.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

You should try to make an effort. He wants to show you off. That’s great!

This doesn’t have to be all of the time, if you don’t want it to. Just a little give and take.

Nancy asks…

Why is it so hard for me to let my boyfriend hang out with his friends ?

Ok, so I have this thing that every time my boyfriend goes to hangout with his friends, I get beyond pissed. Well now he just stopped hangout with him so he didn’t have to hear me yell. I hate being like this & in my heart I want him to be able to hangout with his friends, but I just can’t seem to let him. Help ?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

My girl friend was like this often when I hanged out with my best friend. One of the reasons though she got angry was because she was jealous of my great guy to guy friendship with my bud. She has low self esteem and she knows it. She doesn’t think that she is good enough for me because she doesn’t get along with me the same as my friend and I do. I has to talk with her and tell her that he is like a brother to me but, my friendship with him is nothing like the bond I have with her.

I’m not trying to bash on you here, but maybe you feel that you wish you could have a good time with each other the same as he does with his friends. OR you may feel that he will forget about you and leave you for his friends.

My advice is, just try loosing up a little on him. I know it may be hard but, if he really loves you, then he wouldn’t leave you for them. Also try getting to know his friends better, and relax and keep in mind that you are the only true one in his eyes. Good luck, I hope you and your man have a great relationship with one another.

Sharon asks…

My boyfriend’s birthday — he wants to hang out with his friends?

My boyfriend‘s birthday is tomorrow, and today at lunch, he was talking about having his (guy) friends over to his house for his birthday.
He never talked to me about us spending time together. I’m not mad that he wants to hang out with his friends, but shouldn’t his girlfriend get some time with him too? Am I just not important enough or what?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Maybe you should plan a separate date or plan with him apart from this get together with his buds. Tell him you want to do something to celebrate his birthday JUST WITH HIM. See if he says you guys can go out over the weekend or something. Maybe he doesn’t think you two are all that serious – and his plans imply that it’s not going to be a big deal to you…and maybe there’s stuff he wants to do with the guys that you might not be into..
Who knows…Realistically, this guy sounds immature and a usual case of “needs to grow up” and make his woman part of his life.
He didn’t think about you, so think about that…

Joseph asks…

my boyfriend wants me to hang out with his friends but..?

my boyfriend wants me to hang out with his friends but i really don’t want to. in high school they were the popular kids and i used to get picked on for being overweight (not by my bf but some of his friends). well i went away to college for a year and lost 100 pounds. i ended up moving back home to go to college and started dating my boyfriend. well i live in a really small town and i literally had maybe 2 friends in high school and they both moved away for college. now i kind of just hang out by myself for the most part and my boyfriend sometimes. i don’t like hanging out with his friends. they’re nice to me now but still, they used to be jerks. they tell my bf that i’m hott now and all this stuff and one of them has hit on me. my boyfriend keeps trying to get me to hang out with them but i don’t like them and feel really uncomfortable. i don’t want to explain why to my boyfriend because i don’t want to sound petty. what should i do?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Get a boyfriend with better friends. Did he know you got picked on by his friends in high school? If he did he’s a jerk. Sorry to say. You could probably do better. I don’t know what he’s like obviously, he could be a really nice guy. Maybe, tell him what they did?

Linda asks…

How am I supposed to act when we are with his friends?

I’ve been dating this guy a little over 4 months now and our relationship is great. He’s the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He’s such a gentleman. However, this greatness comes with a But…He’s sweet and amazing BUT…when his friend(s) hang out with us, its like I’m not allowed to act normal with my boyfriend. When its just me and him, we goof around, kiss, hold each other, tickle each other, tackle each other with kisses and just are complete weirdos together. But when his friend hangs out with us, he doesn’t want to kiss me in front of him unless his friend is looking away, if i tickle him he gets annoyed or upset, its like i basically beg for attention when his friend is over. Then after the friend leaves, i get this whole lecture on how he doesn’t like to kiss me when his friend doesn’t have his girlfriend with him blah blah. So here’s another thing, I can’t act the way i normally act around my boyfriend when his friend is there, as in he won’t kiss me or goof around like usual and i beg for attention from him…BUT if I talk to the friend to much, it comes off as I’m ignoring my boyfriend the whole time and its like me and his friend are dating and my boyfriend is the “friend”. (those are his words). So i dont know if any of this makes sense but i don’t know what to do. Am i doing something wrong? What’s going on?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

A lot of times guys want to be “guys” around their friends..meaning they don’t want their friends thinking they are wussies by giving hugs and kisses or whatever. So he is basically wanting you to back off doing that when his friends are around. Just act like you normally would without all the touching and kissing and stuff..and try to pay more attention to boyfriend at the same time.

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Your Questions About Hate Being Jealous Others

Chris asks…

i hate myself for being so jealous of others?

ugh! no matter what it is im jealous of someone else. im 14 and i guess i have a low self esteem. i hate that im always comparing myself to other people and being so jealous!! how can i stop this?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

First of all, its perfectly normal to feel jealous of others. And since you realize it, which people generally do not, you should actually feel good about yourself. I m 20 and I still get jealous of others all the time. Jealous of friends who got into better colleges than me. Jealous of guys who have got pretty girls. Jealous of Obama who is adored by the entire world. Jealous of the bird outside that basks in the sun all the time while I am obliged to work inside. I am no different than you. But I still feel good about myself coz in being jealous of others, I don’t harm others in any way.

Lisa asks…

Do other females feel jealous or hate other women for being smart, nice, talented, funny and artistic?

seriously…i seem to draw a lot of hatred from girls whose boyfriends i dated like, ten years ago or their boyfriends thought well of me…i pull good grades, i have a load of friends, i play two instruments, i keep my friends laughing, and i draw, make ceramics, jewelry, paint and draw…i am loyal and accept compliments shyly. i give to charity. i open doors for people, pick things up for people, let others out in front of me in traffic…?

the only other thing i can figure is they are biased against the mentally ill. i have to take antidepressants, a mood stabilizer, anxiety meds, and sleeping meds…does that make me not like-able? i really do not understand this.
i read a few of the comments…and would like to add…i am very humble. i am very philosophical, very interested in helping society. i am recording what my other friends and loves say about me, what my family says. and the referring to women as females? and myself as a woman? because i am including those who are NOT a woman as of yet, or were then. even when i was younger i had problems with other members of my gender…i assure you, i am no egomaniac. i doubt myself a lot, thinking if i am so bad and all these girls don’t like me, what am i doing wrong?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Girls tend to be jealous of other girls, but there are other reasons for disliking a person. Personally, I find it annoying when women boast about all their great accomplishments. I find humility attractive, so maybe others are similar. Also, you don’t have to tell other women what medications you are on. It’s a personal matter and can make people feel uncomfortable. Try to view yourself from someone else’s view, and maybe you’ll find what is making these women either jealous or dislike you.

Maria asks…

Why do some people get jealous/hate other people?

What makes people hate get jealous of other people? Is it personality or human nature? Why do people get jealous of with their GF/BF?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Jealousy is an ugly thing. For the person who is jealous, it just eats them up inside. For the person on the other end, it just pushes them away, and makes them feel like, “well if he/she is going to suspect me of doing this, I might as well just go ahead and do it.” And generally speaking, the object of the jealousy usually isn’t even aware. So yeah, there’s nothing good or positive about jealousy.

Joseph asks…

why do people think that when others hate on celebs they actually are jealous?

i just dont get why people think if you hate on a celeb that you are jealous cuz i hate on miley cyrus and i wouldnt want to be her if my life depended on it
i just wanna know why everyone thinks that

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Who would be jealous of Miley Cyrus..
Thats just a waste of valuble time.

Sandra asks…

Which female placements/aspects are more likely to be jealous of other females?

What signs/placements/aspects (female) would give them a tendency to be very jealous of and hate other females?

BQ: Truthfully, do you get jealous when you see someone that you think is better looking than you are?

Your sun, moon, mercury and mars?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Generally, those females who depend more on their appearance than their intelligence or competency tend to be jealous of other women more. I would not be surprised if you would actually see this with debilitated 2nd house placements. More likely this would show up in younger women or women who haven’t developed a good sense of self, not so much a sign. I’ve seen Leo women who were strong and independent creatures and they would never stoop to being jealous of other women…they were too good for that. I’ve seen some of that same sign that just sit in their basements on their computer and hate everyone and everything and themselves.

Cap/Aqua/Cap/Pisces

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Your Questions About Stop Jealousy Paranoia

Linda asks…

How can i stop jealousy and paranoia?

plc while advicing dont forget i have girlfriend in abroad

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Vacuum up all the carpet fresh

Chris asks…

any way to stop jealousy and paranoia?

well…ive been going out with a guy who is 26, im 20 years old for around 3 months now, and although its very early in the relationship things are kind of getting serious, the problem is, im a very jealous and paranoid person. I have 4 older brothers and they cheat on their girlfriends all the time, always have done which i absolutely hate, and its had a major effect on me, I think every guy is a cheat, and i know thats not the case. The guy im with has given me no reason to suspect he’s cheating, im scared incase i ruin this,I also think he is a jealous person aswell, we were shopping the other day and some other guy looked at me and lets just say he wasn’t impressed at all any help would be really appreciated. Thank you
x

Stop Being Jealous answers:

You probably know this already but the answer is straightforward. Yo have what is referred to as low self esteem. In other words you don’t like yourself as much as you should or think you are good enough so you imagine he’ll realise this and leave you. What you need to change things is to change the way you view yourself and this takes time and patience and quite frankly either very very very good smart friends or a counsellor.

Good luck

Charles asks…

How can I stop my paranoia/jealousy?

I have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years and have never had a problem with jealousy, until recently! he is in the military so is away for the week and only comes home on weekends.. do you think this could be why i feel this way?
People always say that im pretty (which i dont believe!) and he says that he actually doesnt fancy anybody else, which I also believe. but before we got together he used to be a ‘bad boy’ which made me think he used to mess around with girls.. He also used to work in a kitchen as a chef, which made him get a really dirty, crude mind.
When we got together he had slept with three people before me and I had never slept with anyone before.
But the thing is, I actually believe that he wouldnt cheat on me, but i always get in a mood or upset if i see him looking at other girls, if a pretty girl comes on the tv or even if he gives a girl a compliment (like saying someone is a good singer on the xfactor!) silly i know! :( Ive even banned him from porn! which he says he doesnt mind :/
I just find myself crying and worry that me crying all the time will push him away, I have had depression and my self esteem is so low. Im only 20 :(

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Hey there,
To be honest, I don’t know the answer as I am in a similar situation to you: I am only 20 myself, also have depression (not officially, but I know it), and was a virgin with my quite non-virgin partner. I love them more than anything, but even noticing a complement to someone else makes me unsure of myself. I don’t think I’m attractive even when I’m told, and it feels very much like I could lose them by being so paranoid, even though I don’t doubt their loyalty at all.
It’s more that I doubt if I’m good enough, and I think that’s where this situation is difficult: the problem is self-doubt. Where most people don’t seem to doubt themselves, I do, and inside I can’t imagine any way that my partner would want to live with someone like me.
The recent change in your circumstances is probably the factor to trigger your concerns, but you need to try to become more satisfied with who and what you are: have confidence in yourself (a lot harder than it sounds, I know) and then use that confidence to feel and be sexy, and your partner won’t want to look away and will be more able to forgive and accept it when you feel uncomfortable.
I hope that helps somewhat. :) *hugs*

Donna asks…

How to control jealousy, paranoia and stop from saying things ill regret.?

I have had a few not so good long term relationships which may have given me a few insecurities over the years. I stayed single by choice for a few years after my ex. Now I have met my dream guy, I think ive fallen head over for this guy. We have slept together on numerous times. He lives few hours away unfortunately but we talk each night on the phone or net with cam and mic. My trouble is, I am acting posessive, jealous if he so much as mentions one of his friends has a female friend at their house or if he is driving when i call and say ill call you when iam free. i get paranoid if he doesnt call pretty soon after. Some nights he will be just talking bout intimate things then he will bring up something and ill accuse him of thinking bout his ex or something pathetic like that. He is an honest caring guy that i know wouldnt do anything wrong but he hasnt said he loves me but i feel chemistry there and we miss eachother so much. We spend most weekends together and we are extremely close. Tonight we were talking on the net and after a while he said he was watching a movie when i asked why he wasnt talking much… and i ended up saying “next time tell me that your busy and ill go do something else” I shouldnt be doing this and i know I will push him away if i keep having episodes like this. What can I do to stop this? Do I need help psychologically? Maybe I should go speak to someone bout this?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

If you keep it up all your going to do is scare him off doll. MEDICATE !

Susan asks…

Help how do you break the paranoia/jealousy chain?

I suffer from extreme jealousy and paranoia. It has got too a stage, that it is becoming destructive in my other wise fantastic relationship. I love my partner and the children with all my heart but need to break the chain. all my other relationships have been similar, what can I do to stop?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Oh goodness! I battled the same thing a few yrs ago with my husband. I was so paranoid and jealous…mind you at the time I was going thru a really bad manic episode that turned into a full blown rage in the end. This was due to being prescribed Effexor. Unfortuntely I cannot take any antidepressants bc it throws me into a manic rage (We found out the hard way). But as soon as I started taking Risperdal, it almost reset my brain kinda enough for the paranoia and jealously to cease.

My husband and I have a wonderful marriage built on trust. So really my feelings of paranoia and jealously was nothing more than my illness creating thoughts that were absolutely false.

This was over 3 yrs ago when this episode occured, and thank goodness between my husbands stedfast support, and my pdoc’s wisdom.. I was given the right meds to turn the situation and thought pattern around.

But I understand completely what u are feeling, and talking to your therapist or pdoc will let them know whats going on so they can give you the proper treatment you need in order to stifle these thoughts and feelings.

Hope that helps :)

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Your Questions About Stop Being Jealous

Lisa asks…

How do I stop being jealous of others?

I have many friends and family members who go out of town almost every summer and sometimes even in the summer AND in the Winter break. Me and my husband run our own business so business is sometimes up and sometimes down. It’s not like we get a set amount of money weekly or bi-weekly. When they go on vacation so much, sometimes I get jealous that I don’t get to go anywhere. I haven’t been anywhere international in over 7 years and one thing I really want to do is to travel. My husband says that if we are patient, things will work out for us in the future. I know it is unfair for my family/friends to be jealous, because its not like they’re trying to rub it in my face and I’m happy for them that they get the chance to spend time with their families. So, how do I stop being jealous of them? Serious answers only.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Please, Please, Please Stop B!tching about where you haven’t been in 7 years and trips you haven’t taken and your business is sometimes up and sometimes down!

Do you actually know how fortunate you really are? Or are you so consumed with jealousy you forgot where you were before you were able to acquire what you have?

You and your husband are still considered the lucky ones! Yes you’re probably use to having better and doing better. But sweetie this is considered a ruff time for everyone. Think about that you still have your husband and he’s not off fighting that damn war! You most likely have your health since you want to take trips so bad just because of your friends. Do not let these things get you down!

And since you can’t go to these places, why don’t you bring those places to you. Meaning: If you want to go to France, when you and your husband have some alone time, decorate! Get all of the things you need such as the wine, the wall decor, maybe drapes with matching bed comforts and have a romantic time at home. Close the office down girlfriend and surprise your man!

It’s what I would do! Sorry I b!tched in the beginning! I don’t know what it’s like to have what you and your friends have. But I’ve got a good man, and we improvise all the time. And trust me, I’m not complaining! :~)

George asks…

How to stop being jealous of girls that talk to my boyfriend?

I always get jealous of the girls that talk or hangout with my boyfriend cause they are exs of his but the girls are like best friends to him now . But they are pretty & I feel like im not as pretty as them so i get worried hes gonna leave me for them .
How can I stop being constantly jealous of the girls that talk to him ?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Coming from a guy that hates jealousy, I find that a) being overly jealous of who I talk to is a total turn-off, it just gives me the feeling you might being doing something that makes you feel guilty rather than jealous. On the other hand, a little jealous is actually flattering. If you think about it, its like she knows a the good thing she has and doesn’t want to lose it. Just remember, If he loves you, you have nothing to fear and he’ll always be coming back to you no matter who talks to him or who he talks to, (friends or otherwise).

Betty asks…

How can i stop being jealous of other women?

I feel so jealous of other women…Not any in particular. I have low self esteem and I’m a pretty jealous person. How can I stop feeling so jealous of other people’s beauty? I feel like I have none myself. I’ve thought about getting colored eye contacts, but that looks fake…and I can’t dye my hair a lighter color b/c that would look fake too. So, does anyone have any tips or advice on how to stop being so jealous? Thanks you!

Stop Being Jealous answers:

All women (that of course includes you) are beautiful. Feel beautiful and you become beautiful. Remember that just because YOU THINK someone is more attractive than you does not mean they are superior to you.

Maria asks…

How do I stop being jealous of my ex girlfriend?

It’s been about a month since me and my ex broke up and and we are friends now, but it seems she has already gotten over me and is happier without me. She has already found someone else she really likes and i’m very jealous. How do I stop being jealous?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

If you’re still in love the best thing to do would be to stop talking to her for awhile and do your own thing. Focus on yourself and do some things with friends or even go out by yourself and meet some new people. Realize the good things you can take away from the relationship, and move forward, if you can only see yourself as being in a relationship with her that is beyond friendship you should cut off all contact. Until the feelings for her go away. Find a new girl that likes you for you.

Jenny asks…

How do i stop being jealous and insecure?

I’m with my girlfriend of 1 year and i get jealous alot and it pushes her away.. She gave me a second chance how do I make things right and stop accusing of cheating, and being jealous.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Honestly, you just do it. You just make your mind up to be different, and you will be. If she didn’t give you a second chance and you lost her for good, chances are you would have learned your lesson then. What the heck is wrong with you that you’re blowing your second chance now? Do you know what I would have given for a second chance once? I know I wouldn’t have blown it like you are doing now.

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Your Questions About Stop Being Jealous Other Girls

Susan asks…

How can I stop being so jealous whenever other girls talk to him?

There’s this guy who I’ve liked for a while and we’re not going out or anything but I really like him…and there are some random girls who flirt with him and it just makes me sooo jealous. Whenever I see him talking to another girl/another girl talking to him I just get jealous. How can I stop myself from getting this way? I’m not going out with him so I feel like a freak for being jealous over that :/

Stop Being Jealous answers:

No, you’re being normal. Being jealous like that comes from not trusting him entirely. I know the feeling. I have had boyfriends that have had girls flirt with him infront of my face, but I don’t feel anyway because I know he loves me and I know I can trust him. They guys that we “talk” to are the problem.

Since we aren’t going out with them, they aren’t really ours, so when we see them flirt, it just makes our insecurities even worse…

Don’t worry. Talk to him about it LIGHTLY. Don’t go overbaord, he’ll get freaked and annoyed. After all, he is single.

Just let him know how much you like him.

Hope I helped(:
Good luck, and you are no freak(:

Ken asks…

How can you stop being jealous of other girls?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Well you can’t stop being jealous of other girls or other people, its a natural feeling just don’t let it discourage you or let it damage your confidence. Try to look at yourself one day and write down a list of good qualities you have about yourself, maybe talents that some girls do not have.

Nancy asks…

How can I stop other girls at my school from being jealous of me?

I know this sounds vain, but it is true. Everyone (boys mostly) says that I am the hottest girl at my school, and this makes the other girls mad. How do I stop them from being jealous of me?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

You cant accept who you are and move on. Screw them

Sandra asks…

How to stop being jealous of other girls?

Long story short, my guy friend started flirting with me a lot and now I love him. I have a feeling though he’s had a crush for the longest time on this girl who is way hotter and more popular than me and he comments on her slutty Facebook pics where she poses in a tight fitting shirt and compliments her saying she looks nice btw.
Or simply liking it. But usually commenting with compliments
GRRRRRRR!!!! >:(((((((((((((
I HATE HER SO MUCH.
SO MUCH!
I wish I could have asked “how do I kill her” but I guesss what I’m really asking now is how to stop hating the other girl he flirts with >:( I love him so much…she doesn’t even DESERVE him. I hate her with all my heart I can’t stop,, how do I stop being so jealous and get over it?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

You just have to have confidence in yourself! Talk to him and show him what a great person you are! (:

Chris asks…

how can i stop being jealous of other girls?

i can’t help but get jealous of girls around my age (i’m 14) that have big boobs (i’m 32 B). i also get jealous of shorter girls. i’m 5’5. i don’t think guys like tall girls. they always go for the shorter girls :p.
i try my hardest to just ignore it, but i end up failing :p
i mean, i can be at my happiest until i see a pretty girl walk by and then i’m at the point where i just want to go hide under a rock.
like yesterday there was this blonde girl who had like three guys just following her and i just wanted to go off and hide.

how can i stop being jealous. i hate it..

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Your not jealous, you have low self esteem.

You aren’t fully “developed” yet and soon all the guys will be taller than you, so right now is just an awkward time for you. I have always been taller than my friends (I’m 5’10) you just have to realize that not everyone is created equal. I would rather not have guys following me for the fact in this day in age, she might end up getting attacked (for reasons I won’t mention) Be who you are and don’t be a fake and soon when the guys realize that the girls with big boobs and perfect bodies aren’t all what they are cracked up to be. Make up your “faults” with a great attitude. I was heavy and had glasses in high school but I always had a smile and an optimistic attitude and I never had a problem having a boyfriend back then.

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Your Questions About Reduce Jealousy

Maria asks…

Can you give some simple ways to be happy and reduce jealousy feeling?

can some one point out some simple ways to be happy in our day to day life, regardless of relegion, cast, ethnic etc.. thnx in advance.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Jealousy stems from your own insecurities. If you have a low self-esteem you feel like the person you are with could do better than you. There are two things you can do in this circumstance. 1. Break up with this person and try to date someone in your league. 2. Understand that the person that is with you is there for a reason. If they “fall out of love” then it was not meant to be. Move on and find someone that is compatible with you.

When you do find that special person, spend less time worrying about being jealous and more time making his/her life better. Let the love of your life be their own person. The less you hold on to that special someone, the happier you both will be.

Ken asks…

How can i reduce jealousy?

I dont et jealous that much, but I’d like to reduce it further :) How can i?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

By acknowledging your own self in person more.

Knowing and realizing that other people have something that you really cannot have until you are coveting what they have and you are not able to put some efforts to have what they have in yourself.

Then you need to try and learn to view everything in this life beyond border and behind the curtain.
You are coveting what other’s have, while you really don’t know if they are truly happy or not with the things they have that you don’t have.
Because -really- the most important thing in life is to be a happy person and a grateful person…..

Steven asks…

best way to increase confidence and reduce jealousy?

want to be perfect for my bf.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Just love and be sure to be loved

Sandra asks…

what are ways to reduce jealousy?

How can i not feel so jealous easily?
I think that maybe my jealousy is probably somewhat due to my self esteem, but there are times i get jealous when 2 of my friends went out together without telling me until i found out about it myself(like one of them let slip or something)… that kind of situation. How can i prevent myself from getting jealous?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Dont bring on question like ow i have a plasma tv and all and i went on an awesome holiday and stick to normal conversations like just a friendly talk :)

Daniel asks…

After the birth of second child, first gets jealous. Any advise on how to reduce this jealousy?

After birth of second male child, the first child (also male child) seems to have gone cranky. He cries quite often without any reason.

Stop Being Jealous answers:

What is important to consider is, how old is the oldest child? If he is under 4, he is very much still a baby himself. He needs to be rocked, held and cuddled, and by all rights should still be breastfeeding. In fact, if babies are breastfed-only up to a year and a half, it is almost impossible to become pregnant again during this time. Even after that time, it is good to wait until the first child is somewhat independent. This occurs at a different rate for different kids.
I had my youngest son 5 years after the birth of his sister. She slept with us (we had a king-size bed), so what I did was put her on one side of me, and the new baby on the other at night. I also let her take a big part in taking care of the baby, so much so that he is now, at the age of 18, much closer to her than he is to me! She is happily married now, however, and is an emergency room nurse. She is very nurturing person! So let your older son have a bottle or pacifier if he still want them, and let him sleep on the other side of you. And let him help you care for the baby! Let him know how very important he is both to you and to his brother.

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Your Questions About Stop Jealousy Now

Mary asks…

how to stop my jealousy now??? & raise my self esteem??? HELP PLEASE!!!?

i get really jealous about girls/models on tv when my boyfriend and i are watching and i was wondering if theres any advice or any good books etc. that anyone can recommend for me to check out because right now i’d try just about anything, we’ve been together for one year ten months and i think i just need to raise my self esteem but i don’t really know how to do that either…

Stop Being Jealous answers:

I dont know if u will like this, but it really helped me:
it’s a book called, ‘being a girl’
wirtten by…..ummmmm I cant remember, some famous actress who was in sex in the city?

Sorry to be so vaugue, but look it up on ebay or amazong or something, it’s really gd!

Susan asks…

Stupid jealousy, how do i stop this now! Please help?

Hello im 23 years old. I have 2 children. 1 kid from a previous marriage(he cheated on me) and a 9 month old from my current boyfriend of a year and a half. I was a little jealous in the beginning of thinking he is looking at some other girl but lately it is getting out of hand and i cant help the way i feel. He always talks to me about how he’s not liking this situation and why i worry all the time. He’s a great guy. Doesnt drink, smoke, party. He works and comes home to me. Just today for instance he went to the dentist and he came home telling me how it went saying some young girl was just talking to him about his teeth and he was asking her questions..and i got jealous worried he thought she looked good. I know its not about looks and he tells me all the time i look good. I dont look like i have had 2 kids at all. Im a size 7 and i just am extremely jealous over stupid stuff like this. Whenever he brings up a girls name i tend to act funny. How do i stop this. Why do i think like this when i know he would never hurt me! Its bugging me. I trust him, i just dont want him to think other females look good i guess…. Why am i so jealous?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

You’re bound to be a little insecure after being cheated on when you were married, but unwarranted jealousy can do much damage to a relationship. I would suggest you keep the lines of communication wide open between you and your guy so you are both free to share what is bothering you. Counseling would be a good idea, although I realize people are quick to suggest this without consideration as to whether you can afford it – been there, done that, NOT cheap. Maybe there is a clinic with a sliding fee scale, or maybe you could talk to your clergyman if you attend church, they are trained as counselors, too. Keep trying and good luck!

Richard asks…

ok! Now that I know its jealousy, how do I stop it?

And its definitely because of sibling jealousy. My parents actually gave(still do) them more attention and I don’t think blaming them would do me any good now that I’m 23. Talking to them sucks, I’ve indicated and even directly told them this thing but you know how parents think they’re always right and I come out as demanding and the always fighting types. And I do have a bad personality. Low self esteem, aggressive, overly critical, always trying to undermine others, wanting everything, comparing to others, trying to prove how someone else’s success is nothing or just lucky. Its all coming out from trying to prove myself to my parents but its still there and it sucks. I can’t stop getting irritated of someone doing good somewhere(even though its noting related to me), appreciating is so hard. What do I do? How can I learn to mind my own business?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Just concentrate on yourself.

Why care about others? Don’t get it.

Nancy asks…

How do I stop being so jealous?

Not long after me & one of my exes broke up, we became friends with benefits.We’ve stopped that now, but everytime he tells me he’s got another girl to fool around with I get so jealous & start getting mad at him & calling him a manwhore & stuff. I feel so protective. I’m in a relationship now so I’ve got to stop this jealousy. How do I do it?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

Everytime ur calling him a manhoe think about how ur calling urself pretty much the same. Love the guy ur with and thats all ..

Chris asks…

my boyfriend gets really jealous when im out with friends without him.what can i do to make his jealousy stop?

we’ve been together for almost 2 years now and i love him very much its just sometimes his jealousy gets out of hand. i know a lot of guys get jealous with things like that but he doesn’t just get jealous it ends up getting us into a fight.

He tells me he rather me not tell him when i go out with my girlfriends but i don’t want to lie to him. does anyone have any advice on what i should do about this?

Stop Being Jealous answers:

I am the exact same way.. Like i was with my girlfriend for 2 years to and that was always a huge problem.. Theres nothing you can do.. Except not do that and make a rule so he cant either he will love that

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