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Your Questions About How Do You Stop Jealousy
Chris asks…
how do you stop jealousy?
i get jealous over my ex’s i think look how happy they are then i see a girl who’s pretty and im instantly jealous of her how do i stop being this way ?x
Stop Being Jealous answers:
Block him on Facebook, messengers, whatever, until you are finally able to move on.
Donna asks…
how to stop jealousy?
I get really jelous so fast
even if i don’t like the person who is making me jealous (not purposely) i just find him attractive
why do i get so jealous?
how can i stop it?
dont answer this unless you actually know HOW to stop it
Stop Being Jealous answers:
I disagree–feelings of jealousy are quite commonplace, and generally result from irrational (or illogical) self-talk. I’d first recommend disregarding the hysteria and psycho-babble (No, it’s not a “serious mental health condition.” And don’t even get me *started* on “…when he knows how to love for real”).
I’d start by checking out the webiste listed below, the Albert Ellis Institute, and perusing the self-help section. Dr. Ellis was *way* ahead of his time, and wrote extensively about love, relationships, jealousy, etc. On another note, he passed away earlier this week; he’s generally regarded as the founding father of cognitive-behavioral therapy.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Helen asks…
How do you stop being clingy and jealous?
Well, I can be very clingy over my boyfriend (we have been dating a year). He says it gets very annoying and I understand and have been trying to give him some slack. Every time he chooses to hang with his friends I tell him to have a great time but… I feel very upset, almost jealous :/ How can I stop the jealousy and clingyness?!
Stop Being Jealous answers:
Just think if you choose to not change, you’ll live a sad life.
Daniel asks…
How does jealousy work?
When I have money to buy or to pay my bills that is where my friend becomes jealous and says “you still have money to pay for it.” To me that is a jealousy words. He should be saying ‘it is good that you still have money to pay your bills and buy things.’
How does his jealousy affect my brain and its thinking. How do I stop his jealousy and its affect on my brain?
Stop Being Jealous answers:
You do not have to let anyone influence your thought patterns. We are all individual humans and do what we want.
Betty asks…
How can you stop your jealousy with your perfect bestfriend?
I have this friend….bestfriend and she’s perfect.
She’s pretty,[developed]
Good at sports, singing, dancing, break dancing, acting, chello, piano, violin, drums, drawling, ceramics.
She a good speaker, not shy, friendly, always trying new things and ends up being good at it without really trying, determined, courageous, very cool, has a lot friends. And the worst part is she’s a good friend and doesn’t have a good family so when your jealous your also guilty…my old friends even like her more than me now. I’m never able to be myself because she’s good at everything I do and like. And she always steals the spotlight, what should do? and I feel like I can’t tell her, because i’ve kinda told her in a way but she just starts yelling and says that I could have her life because she says my life is better becasue I actually have a family that loves me.
Stop Being Jealous answers:
By having self-discipline. Join my group at thegoodadviser group at Yahoo groups to enhance your family life. Go
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I hate being so jealous………..?
I’ve always been an extremely jealous girl when it comes to being in a relationship. I hate the way jealousy makes me feel and it always tends to ruin everything.
I can’t stop having bad thoughts, I’m continuously thinking that the guy I’m with is either a liar or a cheat. I’ve been this way with all of my boyfriends and it’s hurting me very much.
I’m a very insecure person and when I feel jealous my mind just goes crazy. I even have had nightmares about this.
I’ve tried to take control of this problem but I just feels like it’s a losing battle.
I was wondering if maybe someone else felt this way and was able to fix it somehow, if so please give me some advice. I don’t want jealousy to take over my life.
you sound like a women to me there all like that. but if you dont put your trust in the guy your with and you think hes going to lie about everything then is it really worth being in a relationship if theres no trust? but its your life and you only get one. so you decide is it better to be sad and alone or try trusting the man your with. and whats the worst that could happen you end up alone. but you would have been alone any ways if you never trusted him
sorry if i babbled if you can understand what i mean then i hope it helps good luck
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How do i raise my self-esteem..?
I am not confident enough with myself..
I get really jealous with this guy who my best friends met.. Hes good at everything.. So my friends might chose him rather than me..
how do i raise my self-esteem so that i wont feel intimidated and will feel good about myself and not feel out of place..???
positive self-talk does a lot for people. keep repeating that you CAN do something. not only that, sit down somewhere quiet, close your eyes, slow yours breaths and then picture yourself in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in, take in and recognize all of the emotions you feel when you recognize you aren’t comfortable. then you can go two ways. i would suggest doing both of these because it helps you get to know yourself and your limits and potential better but its personal choice. once you’ve realized what makes you nervous about something, change the picture in your head. Instead of feeling nervous, picture yourself being confident, repeating "I am strong, I am confident"
(or something along those lines) and then picture yourself succeeding in the situation you were nervous in. imagine how you would feel to be able to not be intimidated, didn’t feel out of place etc.
another thing to do might be to think about what your place should be for you. its normal to feel out of place but recognizing if it really should bother you or not goes a long way to feeling more confident.
good luck. and remember, you are worth it. You can do it. and, you are not alone.
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how do i stop feeling jealous of everyone around me?
ok..
my cousin is on the swim team, and she is really fast. her dad keeps bragging how proud he is of her.
and everyone my grandpa says something like "bla bla is good at this" i feel bad inside that i don’t make anyone in my family proud.
later, i feel jealous of whoever my grandpa said is good… because they are better than me and make their family proud.
i think don’t make anyone proud of me…
and then all my classmates do sports. they are good. im an indoor person. and i HATE sports. so my classmates make jealous.
MAIN QUESTIONS:
how do i stop feeling jealous of everyone?
how can i make my family proud of me? i only do guitar (which i am bipolar with lol)
what do i do?
OHHH. i asked a question whats wrong ith me and my guitar on how much i love/hae it – the answerer said NO bi-polar =)
Find your passion and do that. If it’s guitar, animals, cooking whatever. Mainly, find something you love and as you get good at it you can feel good about yourself for what YOU accomplished. It’s sounds like you’re competing for your grandpa’s attention–but, you don’t have to be good at anything for him to adore you. You can have a closer relationship just by making an effort to know him and asking how things were different when he was a teen; ask if he remembers the Great Depression, what he thinks of computers…He can be proud of you just for being a good person, and talk about you because he enjoys your company and who you are. Be careful, of thinking that other people’s lives, talents etc. are better. The grass really isn’t greener on the other side–all people have problems whether they are seen or unseen. Good luck!
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i feel that i have extreme self esteem issues?
i really honestly feel that i have self esteem issues. i often feel like i’m not good enough. sometimes i feel so jealous that i wonder if i’m a little crazy and if i should see a psychiatrist. it’s like.. i know i’m not ugly when i look into the mirror, but my head keeps telling me that. i know that guys find me attractive, but i keep comparing myself to other people. it’s making me crazy inside and frankly a little depressed. what should i do?
Funnily enough I’ve just posted a question abit like this on this site! I don’t know what to do either – I’m being bullied at work which is making me feel like shite – I’m begining to doubt my self and worth, and because I am single – think I’m hopeless. Watch out for mine too so we can compare answers.
I have a ‘Neurotic’ book where before I go to sleep I write down all the things which are bugging me – and then in the other colomn write down how I’m going to make it better. It really does work and helps you achieve goals – this time last week I wouldn’t have thought of leaving my job, painting my nails red, and getting my hair cut! Also have set a goal to lose 1.5 stone – what will happen next week I wonder????
Good luck I’m sure you are FAB!
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How can I stop feeling so jealous?
I am jealous of my girlfriend because she earns twice as much as me. I jealous of my boss because she got the promotion I wanted. I am jealous of my ex-girlfriend because she has moved in with her boyfriend into a really nice apartment. How can I curb the green-eyed monster??
Im also jealous of my ex for similar reasons. I know how you feel.
The only thing that will free us both up is – Acceptance. You may oscillate from accepting to being jealous over and over but persist with it. You cant change what your ex is doing and she is not responsible to you anymore – once you realise this its a real start.
Research the writings of eckhart tolle.. especially his book.. the power of now. He has written amazing stuff about acceptance and how to achieve it.
Good luck.
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How To Stop Feeling Jealous of my Sister?
My sister is prettier than me and she always grabs everyone’s attention. I meet a guy and soon enough when they meet her, they forget all about me! I can hardly stand it. What can I do to stop feeling so jealous and hateful of her? Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
who says she’s prettier than you, you seem to get the guys first if she takes them off you. If they go off with her that quick you’re better off without any of them. You’ll meet the right guy who won’t even look at your sister twice. don’t be jealous of her put all your energy into improving your own self esteem instead and good luck
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how can i stop being like this?
I am extremly jealous of my bf. I no he could leave me at any time for some other girl at his skool. I love him so much i dont want to loose him because of my jealousy problem. He is friends with one of my friends and when they talk it makes me feel so jealous because i will have the thoughts go through my head of him leaving me for her and i feel so bad because i no she would never do that to me. How can i stop being so jealous?
jealousy is so annoying! i got it too! lol so first of don’t worry you’re not alone… the best way that i’ve dealt with it is talk to my boyfriend, let him know im jealous but that i dont want to. that way he knows you don’t like that trait of yourself and that it won’t be there forever! also if you talk to him about it maybe you can figure out why you are so jealous.. maybe he doesn’t tell you enough that he loves you?? he cheated on you in the past?? talking about it with him will help tremendously because then he can help reassure you that he isn’t going any where! good luck =)
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how trust worthy are you? i have never been jealous or had a low self-esteem… in fact i’m pretty cocky……
…..in a humble way. maybe it’s my last relationship or cause i’m getting older and i’m losing my mind!!! butmmy trust in a guy has really dimminshed. it has really stuck in my head that one women isn’t good enough for any guy… no matter how much faith in urself u have.. (n not to say that women r so much better!) its just i feel that i turn my guy on but the second he see’s the same thing i have on the next female it makes no difference…. he’s just as turned on as he would be with me.. movies, strip clubs… just girls dressing flashy period. it’s like. sure i do this for u but how much does he really appreciate it if he see’s it just about everywhere he turns his head? n i would never want to bring a guy down for being just that… a guy but it has honestly beat me up mentally.. anyone else? if i’m crazy that’s okay. non of u have to deal with me lol but i’d like some insight/opinions.
u need to get out of that relationshipand away from that man!!!
i dont really know ur situation , so ill tell you about mine….
it is not perfect by all means, but ther is one thing i have, and that is complete trust for him, i have been cheated on in the past, but i know he would not ever do that to me. ,
we have been together for only about 3 yrs, since the birth of our baby, i have found it near impossble to have sex with him……. since she has been born, we can count how many times, and even tho he wnats it all the time every day , (its been a long time since we have been able to do that!)he doenst wnat it with anyone else no matte how horny he gets, but no matter how angry he gets abiut it, he knows its not my fault, it is a medical condition and we will work togehter to make me better again.
your bf sounds like he is like a sex addict or somethin, many men are not content with one woman, and they should never marry, find urslef a real man who will respoect and love you for who you are and will amke u feel safe and loved!!!!!
wish you all the luck in the word!!!!!
GOOD LUCK
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How can I stop being jealous of his ex-girlfriend?
Now this may seem like unreasonable jealously, and it probably is. He claims to hate her, and he never talks about her. But there are still pictures of her with him on Facebook that he hasn’t taken down. Is this a horrible reason to be extremely jealous…? I know I’m insecure and I’d like to stop. Any good ways how?
I would be jealous, too.
As a girlfriend, though, there’s not much you can do… confronting him would probably only make him defensive and he might even say that after all you are not his wife.
There are other ways to make him aware of the situation without seeming like you are too jealous. For example you could frame a picture with you and your cousin (if you happen to have one) and put it where he can see it. Don’t explain who’s the guy with you on the picture, instead wait until he asks. Assuming that he felt at least a little concerned (don’t use the word jealous), this would be the right time to address your concerns, too. He will understand how you feel, because you just made him experience the same. Be creative and use my example to coax him into empathizing with you. Instead of framing a picture, post a picture with you and a guy, too… preferably one with a relative he never met, yet, that way he will feel a bit stupid for feeling "concerned", but it will make him think that if he felt jealous (make sure he utters this word first) about you being on a picture with a relative, then you must feel awfully jealous about the picture with him and his ex on Facebook. You might have to remind him about that picture with him and his ex, though, because some guys just don’t connect things in their mind the way we women do. It’s very important that you don’t miss that crucial moment>… the moment between him realizing that he was jealous for no reason and you making him aware of what you don’t feel happy about either. Some guys are really good at changing topics. You have to outsmart him, so you don’t seem insecure, okay? Good luck.
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