How can I stop being jealous?

When my boyfriend talks to other women that I know are not platonic friends and I don’t know them, I get jealous feelings. I don’t like how I act or what I say which sounds iinsecure and distrustful, and I wonder what he thinks about them. I think I do trust him but I don’t like that he is giving them attention and talking to them, and not introducing me. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to stop these horrible feelings?

How do I stop my jealous feelings?

My best friend, who is a girl hangs out with all types of people like I do, but for some reason when I see her with other guys I just cant help but feel jealous. I do know that I might have feelings for her, but I can’t tell her anything about that yet. So until then please tell me a way to get over my jealousy long enough until im ready to tell her.
Im a guy. I forgot to say that, sorry. Plus, I try to hang around the same people she does ,guys or girls, but It makes me seem to desperate sometimes to talk to her

How do I stop these jealous feelings towards husband’s son?

I have been slated by people on here when mentioning this before… by those who have no understanding of the situation, & I am trying to change.

My husband & I have been married for a short time & I am 19weeks pregnant. My husband was thrilled when we found out. I am 40, he is 39. I have an 18yr old, he has a 19yr old.

My son moved in with my parents just before we married (for reasons too complex to go into). My stepson lives with us, but was due to live with his mum in June (NOT because I’m trying to get rid of him). My stepson loves his mum very much & she had been asking him to live with her for a while.

To start with I got on well with stepson. I made food I knew he liked, bought gifts etc. He goes to college 2 days a week & his dad decided that Connor should do the washing up on his days off as his chore. Now I do the washing up daily… when I mentioned this to hubby he said I was an adult, his son was a child so I should shut up. His son now ignores me… he comes into the room & asks “do you want anything dad” yet refuses to look at me. I’d always complimented my hubby on how polite his son is, now I mention how he ignores me, even if I talk to him, and my husband goes mad.

My husband calls my son “darling”, won’t have a bath unless his son is here, so he can go into the bathroom with him. talks about how we should raise our child, and names etc. Anytime I complain he tells me his son is his only family, his best friend and that he’d prefer it if I left so they could have fun like they used to before I came along.

We have a small 2 bed house & to start with, when his son was going to leave, this would have been OK. When I realised this was unlikely to happen I suggested getting a 3bed house, which my husband had been offered. My husband refused… saying that he’s not sure what he wants….

I really don’t want to live with a baby in this small house, with his Son who lives the toilet filthy, my husband running around wiping his son’s nose (his son can’t cook or do his washing at 19). I spend every night crying. I did ask if his son could stay with his mum when the baby is born to give us some bonding time with the baby. Husband refuses saying that it’s half-sibling & he wants his best friend to experience it with us…. while I can empathise I don’t agree. I’m happy for his son to see the baby… but I don’t agree that his son should be around 24/7 to share our experience (I know this is awful of me)… we’re a new family & of course his son will always be part of it… I’m not arguing that… I just want some time alone with the two of us & our new baby… who has two parents not three. I feel desperate as my feelings are not thought of. His mum would happily have him as his college would have finished for the year… I can’t bear the thought of my husband having baths with his son, cooking for his son, staying up till 3am with his son playing games, while I’m tending to a newborn.

We’ve also come to blows regarding guardians for the baby. My husband has disowned his family & his next of kin are his son & his ex-wifes sister. He wants his son or ex sis-in- law to be guardian… I don’t. I want my sister who is marred with a young child & has already said would encourage his son to visit. That way my son would also be involved. His son would take my child to a different part of the country to be with his mum… who I’ve never met. My husband is cool with this as I think he still loves his ex… as I’m feeling the baby move & will be the one pushing it our I don’t want it brought up by some kid who hates me & never seeing my family.

I’m also worried about the delivery as my husband has said I can’t have an epidural as his ex didn’t. I don’t want him to watch the head come out, he won;t be there if he’s not allowed, plus he says he’s not there for me but to watch his child be born… I rally want someone there who loves me & supports me… right now I feel like a surrogate or incubator as opposed to a wife… how to change how I feel?

I also want to add I love my son very, very much & we get on great now (there are reasons unrelated to my husband that he moved in with my parents). So I understand about kids coming first.. yet my hubby has an exclusive relationship with his son that excludes me
All good points that i have thought about… yet my husband REFUSES to have my son around & hates him… so I don’t feel like I should try to too hard with his son anymore… I do get annoyed when people way I should have realised before we married that he had a son… so do I .. who now wants to live with me. My stepson has a mum… my son only has me… so I’m sick of hearing how I should be nice to his son, while my poor baby is left out in the cold
Also surely staying with a husband who bad mouths my son will only teach the baby to its half-brother… why should i stay around & try to be nice to his son… when my own flesh & blood is bad mouthed & treated like crap?

How do you stop feeling jealous?

I recently started seeing this girl, we aren’t really a ‘couple’ yet but we go on dates and do stuff couples do. The thing is that she is a more gregarious person then I am and she is friendly with a lot of people and is always going out. Meanwhile I’m stuck at home studying or just sitting by myself.

I don’t mind this at all, she can have a social life or whatever, but whenever she tells me she is going to a party, I get extremely jealous because I know she’s going to be around other guys and don’t really know if she is going to be making out with them or something like that. I try to let these jealousy feelings go and trust her, but I have trust issues and I get uncontrollably angry. How can I stop these feelings from happening? It’s getting really bad and I don’t want them to somehow ruin any chances I have with this girl.

how to stop being jealous?

well you see i know your best friend can have other friends too. i now that because i have a lot of other friends besides my best friend. but why is it that whenever my BFF hangs with her other friends, that I get jealous? like a few days ago, she invited this other girl to the movie theatre instead of me, and i couldn’t help it but i got so mad inside!!! i really want to stop these feelings of jealousy!!! How???

How do I stop feeling jealous of BF’s new female friends?

BF and I have been going out 3 years and since then I’ve graduated uni this year, and he started another course in uni. He’s always been very outgoing and had lots of friends, but mostly guys who I know quite well. But since starting his new course he’s making a lot more female friends. I’ve met most of them at least once and some are very nice, but a few of his closer friends aren’t very friendly toward me and I’ve started to feel very insecure about him going out with them and staying over for parties etc. I’ve brought it up a few times and he says I’ll like them once I get to know them and he’d never do anything that would hurt me. I trust him, but I still don’t like the fact is that they don’t invite me out or include me when I am there. And no matter what he says I still feel jealous and insecure. How do I stop feeling this way and talk to him?

How can I stop feeling insecure?

I know my husband is just a man…and most men really can’t help looking when attractive women are present…but I think I take it too personally. I don’t get angry at my husband because I know it’s natural to appreciate beauty, but it makes me feel inadequate when I catch him “appreciating” someone else. He doesn’t do it on purpose to hurt my feelings. In fact, he stops looking when he knows I’ve noticed.

I’m not ugly or anything. Realistically, I’m pretty cute but not HOT or beautiful. My husband has dated very beautiful women. His ex-wife was quite a looker too. I know he probably doesn’t “compare” me to the other women he’s dated before, but I can’t help feeling less feminine compared to them (I’ve seen pictures). I guess I’m just really insecure. I know my husband LOVES big breasts…something I don’t have. I’m so miserable about it, I’m considering breast implants. I’ve always been insecure about my looks, and the fact that my husband doesn’t often tell me that I’m beautiful really saddens me. I know it sounds silly, but the thing is -it’s been 5 years and everyday I look at my husband and I still think he’s the most handsome man in the world. He’s getting older and he’s been overweight for as long as we’ve known each other, but I never really cared. During the past 5 years, I’ve only had eyes for him. Maybe that’s why it hurts a little when I see him admiring other women. I want to stop feeling jealous but I’m not quite sure what to do…any advice?

How can I stop feeling insecure about these other girls online?

I really really like (love?) this person online. He is somewhat famous. Has thousands of fans. He’s quite down to earth. He used to respond to me and then it feels like he stopped suddenly. (i don’t know if I should take it personally…but it hurts) I can see he is responding to others and not me. That hurts. i can also see what others are writing to him. Girls from all over the world, complimenting, boldly flirting, (some are even sexual), playful, smart, sweet, very bright and intelligent girls. It hurts. I am feeling insecure and jealous/threatened. I realize there’s intense competition here for his attention. It’s so stupid and silly of me right? that I am feeling so affected over this? Why am I feeling like this really? What thought can make me feel better over this reality check that am not alone? There are way too many who feel the same. I’d love for him to just notice me. Please be kind with your thoughts.. really looking forward to your help. Thank you…

How can i stop feeling so inadequate and insecure about myself?

What i’ve noticed is that how good i feel about myself is dependent on how I feel others percieve me.
If i feel as though they rate me well (maybe after like a really good or funny conversation or something), i’d feel good.
But if I were to have a bad, akward conversation that i felt was going no where, I’d feel as though they’d judge me badly and I’d start to feel bad about myself, even more insecure and inadequate.
I feel like I am inadequate compared everyone else, especially when it comes to talking to people.
I occasionally end up feeling jealous of those who funnier than me, or are better conversationalist than me…because theese are al the traits i want to poses. Although I am often told that I am funny or nice to talk to, i don’t feel like it.
And for those who do like me as a person, i feel like I have expectations to keep up when i talk to them or they’d stop liking or caring about me. Thats why sometimes I avoid having conversations with the people who do like me and my traits when I feel like I am not going to perform up to my expectations in the conversations (when i feel like im not goign to be funny enough, or smart enough).
Because of this I never feel authentic.

All i want is for me to feel good about myself “all the time!”, and not feel as though i have to have a fancy answer to everything in order to do that.
I want to feel confident all the time no matter what. I am sick of feeling insecure, inadequate, nervous, dependent, jealous and unauthentic. I want it to all go away but i dont know what to do or where to start.
Please help me out.

My boyfriend’s friends have hot girlfriends and I feel insecure and jealous when we hang out.. Why?

When we hang out as a group I feel jealous when my bf talks to one of the girls. I also feel very insecure, like if I’m less than them. How could I stop feeling this way?