My jealousy is making me fight with him..I WANT TO STOP!!?
i don’t know how..i don’t know why these few days i’m getting jealous coz usually he pays me more attention and wants me around him always..but these few days it’s like he wants me as well but not as before..so i get jealous of whatever he’s doing and imagine he might be interested in someone else
so i automaticly get annoyed from him over simple things..
he gets jealous too but i know how to control it..but how do i stop my negative thoughts?!!
I love him i know he loves me and it hurts him when i fight with him (he even asked me today..y are u behaving like this? he thinks im making excuses to break up with him) and hurts me when i think of him being less caring..i’m confident so why is this happening?
jeez..the symptoms to it doesn’t match me whatso-ever..i sai it happened these few days only
Jealousy is caused by insecurity. It just sounds like he got comfortable with you is all. That’s actually a good thing. Don’t expect fireworks all the time like in the beginning. Give the poor guy a break. You’re being paranoid and insecure. Most men don’t like insecure women. Stop playing games with him and spend some time apart. Concentrate on everything else but him for a while. Spend time with your other friends and don’t constantly talk about him. Tell him you need some time to yourself to get yourself together. Absence will help your thoughts become clear. Agree to avoid contact for 2 weeks. Set a date at the end of that time and get together to see if you both want the same things. If not, move on. Life is too short to waste on someone who isn’t as willing as you are to work on the relationship.
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August 7th, 2010 at 8:51 pm
It appears you have a mental disorder known as borderline personality disorder. Go ahead and look it up on wikipedia. You are a text book definition. I suggest you schedule an appointment with a counselor or pyschologist to discuss a course of treatment (usually a combination of therapy and pills). Your illness can not be cured but it can be treated so it is less annoying to the people you love.
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August 7th, 2010 at 9:01 pm
alot of people willl come down on you for being jealous, but lets face it, we’re instinctive creatures, and we sense when our men are up to no good. jealousy is a woman’s way of instinctively protecting her interests. we sense when other women fancy our men, and when they fancy someone else, no matter how much they try to deny it. look at it as a positive, not a negative. just stop creating fights. if he’s the one starting the fights, then thats a sign he’s guilty and/or already cheating.
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August 7th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
Jealousy is caused by insecurity. It just sounds like he got comfortable with you is all. That’s actually a good thing. Don’t expect fireworks all the time like in the beginning. Give the poor guy a break. You’re being paranoid and insecure. Most men don’t like insecure women. Stop playing games with him and spend some time apart. Concentrate on everything else but him for a while. Spend time with your other friends and don’t constantly talk about him. Tell him you need some time to yourself to get yourself together. Absence will help your thoughts become clear. Agree to avoid contact for 2 weeks. Set a date at the end of that time and get together to see if you both want the same things. If not, move on. Life is too short to waste on someone who isn’t as willing as you are to work on the relationship.
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