Comments on: my boyfriend suddenly jealous and doesnt believe what i say? i cant stop crying today, please can you help?

By: Straightdowntheline

Straightdowntheline — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 09:08:59 +0000

When someone points a finger (e.g. your husband at you) three of their fingers point back to themselves. It is likely your husband is playing away. Stop crying, There is absolutely no point in behaving like a voiceless baby.
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By: proud walker

proud walker — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 08:39:59 +0000

you don’t need to prove that you are innocent. he should trust you or leave. why should you live like this. he’s the one with the problem.

someone said that women have a built in need to nurture their men the way they nurture their children. this causes them to take it on themselves to take guys with issues under their wings and suffering all their rubbish, instead of running for the hills and finding a guy who is going to support them and make them feel good about themselves.

So tell him. it’s his problem not yours.
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By: rlabelle78

rlabelle78 — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 07:57:59 +0000

There's an old saying, the one doing to Questioning is the one up to no good. When he just started doing it you got to ask yourself why ? You may want to start checking the things hes doing
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By: Lady of Shalott

Lady of Shalott — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 07:15:59 +0000

Could your boyfriend be guilty of deceit? If you have never been unfaithful and you’ve been happy up until this point, and then all of sudden he starts accusing you of cheating on him?

I think he has either cheated on you and feels guilty, but doesn’t want to deal with it so he transfers his feelings onto you OR he is trying to find a way to end the relationship with you.

You have to be strong enough to handle either scenario. If you are innocent, then you have nothing to feel bad about. If he can’t trust you, then what is holding your relationship together? A longstanding relationship has to have trust or it will fail.

Good luck!
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By: Gee

Gee — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 06:46:59 +0000

Ah, the good 'ol lower self esteeem, self worth & guilt trick. You women fall for that crap over and over again and than wonder why you end up stuck with an idiot for a boyfriend / husband.
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By: Justin H

Justin H — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 06:29:59 +0000

Not to make you feel worse, but in my personal experience when someone is trying to prove you are cheating they usually are. It may not be a physical thing, but he could just be contemplating it. People preffer to pass guilt rather than live with it. Should he be able to prove you are cheating that would bring you to his level. My wife has cheated on me numerous times, and looking back they coincide with times when she would accuse me even though I never have.
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By: Tara R

Tara R — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 06:04:59 +0000

i feel your pain, boyfriends can tend to get very jealous of little things and just so you know he is only acting like that because he loves you. remember that.so dont cry anymore i hope you feel better
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By: Fergy

Fergy — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:16:59 +0000

Take Heart…You did nothing wrong. He is having the problem. Stick by him and see this through, but there is no need to feel guilty about anything. You may even need to yell at him the next time he asks you some strange question about a hidden boyfriend that you don’t have. That may set him straight and wake him up. Remember, no matter how bad things are today, tomorrow will be better.
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You will get through this just takes time. (smile)

By: Peachyy

Peachyy — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:03:59 +0000

ok my boyfriend is a bit like this.. unbelievably paranoid even though he has no reason to be
it will probably get worse as it did with me
hes so scared of loosing you but in the end he might loose you because hes paranoid
just talk to him and lay down some rules and snap him back into reality. you have to be FIRM! i did and it worked… well so far it has
it not fair that he should make you upset over something you’ve never done
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By: Jazzmin27

Jazzmin27 — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 04:52:59 +0000

Don't let an insecure person put you down, your boyfriend is showing a long deep problem feeling unworthy, insecure, and possibly he likes drama and builds up dumb ideas. If you really want an advice dump the guy, this is your red flag and your boyfriend has issues that will last a long time and possibly all his life.
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