a couple of weeks ago, we were having a disscusion on gordon ramsy affair, and we mentioned past relationships.
after this conversation he went quiet and has had severe jelousy and paranoid thoughts ever since.
he keeps thinking i have someone else, and looks at every minor detail hoping to find some evidence that im cheating. last night he asked me why his bath towel smelt strange and that it wasnt his smell- he then kept asking me if i was cheating. we have been so happy up until this point, and we have been together one year and live together.
i have never cheated on him, and tell him i would never hurt him. i dont know how to show him he can trust me and that i am innocent.
please can you advice me? today i feel so low that i cant hardly speak. i dont want my boyfriend to think this about me. i dont want to leave, i want to work through it. but how? what do i say to him?
he loves me. its because he is afraid of being hurt.
you don’t need to prove that you are innocent. he should trust you or leave. why should you live like this. he’s the one with the problem.
someone said that women have a built in need to nurture their men the way they nurture their children. this causes them to take it on themselves to take guys with issues under their wings and suffering all their rubbish, instead of running for the hills and finding a guy who is going to support them and make them feel good about themselves.
So tell him. it’s his problem not yours.