Comments on: I’m a lesbian, and I have a jealous obsession with this straight male?

By: Jon Bailey

Jon Bailey — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 12:26:59 +0000

Here’s something to consider:
Not too long ago, the guy I like said, "I wish I looked better than I do". To me, he’s a work of art. If he looked any better, he’d have no choice but to be a god. Yet all the same, he feels like he doesn’t look attractive.
Chances are, there’s someone out there who thinks the same thing about you.

Another way to look at it:
Think about when you buy flowers. What’s more important, the color and shape of the flower or the fact that you spent your money for someone else to make them feel special? Now answer this, what’s better of *these* two: the outside appearance of the guy, or the love you have to offer to someone else? Whether you feel you are truly male or female, there is *always* someone who you can love. Try to find that beauty in yourself, and respect yourself for giving it to the person you love. It doesn’t matter what happens, just be proud that you are you.
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By: Jace Space Case

Jace Space Case — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 12:03:59 +0000

It’s rough, I know, when you start questioning your own lot in life, especially your sexuality. It goes doubly if you’re home life is a bit of a wreck and you’re at an awkward age.
The major problem I see is that you’re completely comparing your life to his.
This is a bad idea because no matter who you choose to compare yourself too, you’ll always come up short because you’re only seeing what they’re showing you. It’s terrible to think, but it’s very possible that this perfect kid goes home to a terrible household or struggles with his own identity.
He may very well look in the mirror every day and hate what he sees. I know because I’ve done it. I’ve been complimented in the past but still wake up some days wishing for a different body or face.
And odds are, someone looks at you and says the same thing, wishing they looked like you or lived like you but not knowing your pains and problems.
I know, you’re probably shaking your head saying ‘not me’ but it’s true. I can guarantee, as they looked at me, like I’ve looked at others, as you look at him, they look at you.
You’re at an awkward age, but it gets easier as you get older. Things don’t stay rough forever. Embrace your sexuality, your looks and you’re strengths. If you’re that worried about your looks, do something about it. No, nothing drastic but go to a beautician, learn what you can about make up and what clothes work for your body type. I know it might seem shallow or silly, but whatever makes you feel better about just being you will make it all worthwhile.
You’ll find with a bit of confidence, you can get the girls, the jobs and the life you want, you just have to make the effort to get it.
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Life.

By: Courtney ?

Courtney ? — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 11:15:59 +0000

You need to remember things aren't always what they seem. Everyone is messed up in one way or another, just because someone seems happy or has the "perfect life" from the outside does not mean its true. Everyone is unhappy in some way and everyone has some major thing wrong in there lives. I was friends with a guy for over a year and had no idea he had major depression and was suicidal alot of the time, one of my other friends was raped for years and we had no idea. Who knows maybe one of his parents is an alcoholic or he has an unstable household or maybe he's secretly depressed himself. From my experience everyone is a little messed up, its horrible but its an equalizer.
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By: Johny

Johny — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 11:07:59 +0000

well this sounds somewhat in "American psycho" style…
Seriously though: Why are you jealous? Girls are good looking…equally smart.
Being jealous of the opposite sex is just stupid.
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