Comments on: I need advice on letting go.? http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/ You can Stop Jealousy Today Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:41:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: julesrules http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4640 julesrules Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:43:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4640 Your relationship was weak from the beginning but getting counseling isnt too late. She is just making excuses. Counselors help you work through problems, no one promises it is a cure. She should try before making judgements. Sure, it is easier for her to move in with a relative and say bad things about counseling but if she is that way, I get the impression she is just being selfish and maybe wants to 'play the field' and is having trouble telling you so. Now, you say you have jealousy issues, well that is very common among men, and so is insecurity. Maybe someone was unfaithful in your past and you never dealt with it. Without counseling, it can follow you around in your life and you will have the same relationship problems, take it from me. They don't just vanish. It is ok though if you want to try counseling for you. It can help break through barriers, I promise you. Then if it doesn't work out at all with your current wife after all, then at least you will feel better about yourself and be more confident. Give it a try even if she just flat out won't. My best to you in life.<br><b>References : </b><br>mine. plenty of personal exp. Your relationship was weak from the beginning but getting counseling isnt too late. She is just making excuses. Counselors help you work through problems, no one promises it is a cure.
She should try before making judgements. Sure, it is easier for her to move in with a relative and say bad things about counseling but if she is that way, I get the impression she is just being selfish and maybe wants to ‘play the field’ and is having trouble telling you so.

Now, you say you have jealousy issues, well that is very common among men, and so is insecurity.
Maybe someone was unfaithful in your past and you never dealt with it. Without counseling, it can follow you around in your life and you will have the same relationship problems, take it from me. They don’t just vanish. It is ok though if you want to try counseling for you. It can help break through barriers, I promise you. Then if it doesn’t work out at all with your current wife after all, then at least you will feel better about yourself and be more confident.
Give it a try even if she just flat out won’t.

My best to you in life.
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mine. plenty of personal exp.

]]> By: jo http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4639 jo Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:19:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4639 You are too controlling and short of frisking her, all of this snooping was totally unwarranted. No one likes to be treated as a prisoner. You really need to learn to trust, calm down and give her some space. I think you may benefit from some individual counseling and let your wife know that you recognize that you have a problem you are willing to work on. Good luck.<br><b>References : </b><br> You are too controlling and short of frisking her, all of this snooping was totally unwarranted. No one likes to be treated as a prisoner. You really need to learn to trust, calm down and give her some space. I think you may benefit from some individual counseling and let your wife know that you recognize that you have a problem you are willing to work on. Good luck.
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]]> By: bykrgirl2008 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4638 bykrgirl2008 Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:30:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4638 well its nothing wrong with being cautious with your heart but you were being a bit too much. When someone tell you they don't wanna be with you its very hard to hear and grip when you love them. it may not be you she may not have been ready, sometimes the thought of being married and having a stand in father for your child sounds good but only hurts someone else in the end. she clearly said she made a mistake and she does not love you like that. all you can do is pick yourself up and keep moving its going to be hard but you really have nothing holding you to her no kids or anything, it maybe possible in the future to see her child but not now just let her go.Fill your time with yourself and learning yourself. work on you cause you need it! Prayer is my last advice look to GOD and he will send you a woman for you. Good luck.<br><b>References : </b><br> well its nothing wrong with being cautious with your heart but you were being a bit too much. When someone tell you they don’t wanna be with you its very hard to hear and grip when you love them. it may not be you she may not have been ready, sometimes the thought of being married and having a stand in father for your child sounds good but only hurts someone else in the end. she clearly said she made a mistake and she does not love you like that. all you can do is pick yourself up and keep moving its going to be hard but you really have nothing holding you to her no kids or anything, it maybe possible in the future to see her child but not now just let her go.Fill your time with yourself and learning yourself. work on you cause you need it! Prayer is my last advice look to GOD and he will send you a woman for you. Good luck.
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]]> By: jomarie1006@sbcglobal.net http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4637 jomarie1006@sbcglobal.net Thu, 29 Jul 2010 15:43:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4637 I am dealing with someone similiar to you...except we arent married but he wants to be. He has scared me off with LOTS of things including not wanting me to talk to my guy friends that I work with who are on facebook and also doesnt want me to put current pics of myself on my profile. It sounds like you have trust issues and alot of people do.....you have got to STOP coming across as CONTROLLING with women. You cant control your partner or make them feel that you are trying. You may need to get some counseling for yourself...so you can be better in a future relationship. I feel for you and hope things get better for ya. Best Regards. :)<br><b>References : </b><br> I am dealing with someone similiar to you…except we arent married but he wants to be. He has scared me off with LOTS of things including not wanting me to talk to my guy friends that I work with who are on facebook and also doesnt want me to put current pics of myself on my profile. It sounds like you have trust issues and alot of people do…..you have got to STOP coming across as CONTROLLING with women. You cant control your partner or make them feel that you are trying. You may need to get some counseling for yourself…so you can be better in a future relationship. I feel for you and hope things get better for ya. Best Regards. :)
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]]> By: itiot99 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4636 itiot99 Thu, 29 Jul 2010 15:32:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4636 Hold on loosely. wait for her to call you. I know it's hard but it's for the best<br><b>References : </b><br> Hold on loosely. wait for her to call you. I know it’s hard but it’s for the best
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]]> By: Sheniquah Redux http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4635 Sheniquah Redux Thu, 29 Jul 2010 15:03:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4635 Facebook? You have to be f*cking kidding, right?<br><b>References : </b><br> Facebook? You have to be f*cking kidding, right?
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]]> By: freedom f http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4634 freedom f Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:15:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4634 Only thing I can say is work on yourself and those thoughts and if she sees that you have changed and or maybe working to improve yourself, she might take note and want to give things another try... It is funny how you could be doing many things right, but a little thing like jealously can rock the boat big time if the person is not able to shake it off. It sounds like you have trust issues and maybe there are some things in your past you need to clear up, u know?<br><b>References : </b><br> Only thing I can say is work on yourself and those thoughts and if she sees that you have changed and or maybe working to improve yourself, she might take note and want to give things another try…

It is funny how you could be doing many things right, but a little thing like jealously can rock the boat big time if the person is not able to shake it off.

It sounds like you have trust issues and maybe there are some things in your past you need to clear up, u know?
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]]> By: Robie http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/comment-page-1/#comment-4633 Robie Thu, 29 Jul 2010 13:33:59 +0000 http://www.stopjealousy.com/i-need-advice-on-letting-go/#comment-4633 When you are with someone, there has to be trust!<br><b>References : </b><br> When you are with someone, there has to be trust!
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