I keep having bad thoughts of my boyfriend cheating…?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now, but we’ve been best friends for 4 years. He’s always been a good friend to me, the best friend I’ve ever had. We both love each other very much, and have plans to marry and stuff in the future. (Though we’re not engaged or anything, we just talk about it.)
I have pretty bad anxiety and lately I’ve been having these thoughts that hurt me so much. I trust him with all my heart, but I keep imagining him cheating or leaving me or looking at other women. I’ve become so obsessed with it that even when I’m watching a movie alone and see a female who I think looks better than me, I start feeling as self-conscious and bad as if he were there watching it with me. And when we do watch movies that focus sexually on a female, showing her topless and stuff, I get SO incredibly jealous and self-conscious and just feel terrible.
I have told him about this, as I tell him everything, and he assures me that he’s not looking at other women and that he loves me and only me, that he will never cheat on me and stuff like that. I believe him, but I can’t stop these thoughts! There’s this girl who gives him a ride home from work and it worries me so much but I know he won’t do anything with her. I just get so worried and self-conscious and I really don’t know what to do. I even have bad dreams of him cheating on me and leaving me.
Why am I obsessing over this so much? Everything was fine until the past month. He’s given me absolutely NO reason to believe he’d cheat or leave me or anything. So why am I thinking this way? He hates that I do. Could it be because I’ve been cheated on by a guy I used to love previously? It should be different because my boyfriend has been my best friend for years, always there for me, and I trust him. What advice can you give to ease my troubled mind?
Your BF sounds nice.
Having a GF who is insecure, jealous, and clingy will drive any normal guy away. You probably need to talk to a counselor. Sorry!
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July 27th, 2010 at 8:50 pm
Your BF sounds nice.
Having a GF who is insecure, jealous, and clingy will drive any normal guy away. You probably need to talk to a counselor. Sorry!
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July 27th, 2010 at 9:33 pm
I am having the exact same problem as you. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything you said is exactly how i feel. Except its gotten better. I realized it is more with my self confidence. I have always been a little insecure and having someone fall in love with me and care so much about me made it seem to good to be true. After realizing hey this guy really does love me i found it easier to get over the fear of him looking at other girls or liking someone else. It is a really hard thing to get over but i have faith youll get over it. It just takes time. Best of luck to you!
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July 2nd, 2011 at 10:11 pm
I am having the exact same problem except i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. He has never cheated on me but we have had alot of ups and downs which has lead me to stray do to a lack of communication and TLC. However i have been cheated on and been used by many guys in the past and my confidence and self-esteem is very low. My boyfriend had recently befriended this girl from college, shes very good looking and great to get along with. There quite good friends now and he’s nearly always going to visit her and goes out socializing with her and stays over night in her place. He did assure me that he loves me and hasn’t been doing anything with her but he also jokes and tells me that he would ”do her”. Am I over-reacting? should i put all my fears straight out to him? or i just ignore all these bad thoughts and feelings im getting.
Any advice would help please.. x