My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now, but we’ve been best friends for 4 years. He’s always been a good friend to me, the best friend I’ve ever had. We both love each other very much, and have plans to marry and stuff in the future. (Though we’re not engaged or anything, we just talk about it.)
I have pretty bad anxiety and lately I’ve been having these thoughts that hurt me so much. I trust him with all my heart, but I keep imagining him cheating or leaving me or looking at other women. I’ve become so obsessed with it that even when I’m watching a movie alone and see a female who I think looks better than me, I start feeling as self-conscious and bad as if he were there watching it with me. And when we do watch movies that focus sexually on a female, showing her topless and stuff, I get SO incredibly jealous and self-conscious and just feel terrible.
I have told him about this, as I tell him everything, and he assures me that he’s not looking at other women and that he loves me and only me, that he will never cheat on me and stuff like that. I believe him, but I can’t stop these thoughts! There’s this girl who gives him a ride home from work and it worries me so much but I know he won’t do anything with her. I just get so worried and self-conscious and I really don’t know what to do. I even have bad dreams of him cheating on me and leaving me.
Why am I obsessing over this so much? Everything was fine until the past month. He’s given me absolutely NO reason to believe he’d cheat or leave me or anything. So why am I thinking this way? He hates that I do. Could it be because I’ve been cheated on by a guy I used to love previously? It should be different because my boyfriend has been my best friend for years, always there for me, and I trust him. What advice can you give to ease my troubled mind?
Your BF sounds nice.
Having a GF who is insecure, jealous, and clingy will drive any normal guy away. You probably need to talk to a counselor. Sorry!
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