I hate being so jealous………..?
I’ve always been an extremely jealous girl when it comes to being in a relationship. I hate the way jealousy makes me feel and it always tends to ruin everything.
I can’t stop having bad thoughts, I’m continuously thinking that the guy I’m with is either a liar or a cheat. I’ve been this way with all of my boyfriends and it’s hurting me very much.
I’m a very insecure person and when I feel jealous my mind just goes crazy. I even have had nightmares about this.
I’ve tried to take control of this problem but I just feels like it’s a losing battle.
I was wondering if maybe someone else felt this way and was able to fix it somehow, if so please give me some advice. I don’t want jealousy to take over my life.
you sound like a women to me there all like that. but if you dont put your trust in the guy your with and you think hes going to lie about everything then is it really worth being in a relationship if theres no trust? but its your life and you only get one. so you decide is it better to be sad and alone or try trusting the man your with. and whats the worst that could happen you end up alone. but you would have been alone any ways if you never trusted him
sorry if i babbled if you can understand what i mean then i hope it helps good luck
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August 3rd, 2010 at 12:30 pm
i wish you were my girlfriend
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August 3rd, 2010 at 12:42 pm
yes
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August 3rd, 2010 at 1:07 pm
Realize that not everyone is bad. There are good people. Just try and trust your partner for what its worth.
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August 3rd, 2010 at 1:39 pm
You just need to realize that if you’re at the point where you and your boyfriend have mutually agreed to be in a relationship, then he’s yours. Just be happy about that and realize that he has agreed, by being in a relationship with you (and not just hooking up), to be with you and only you. Don’t focus on the what ifs about him cheating on you or else you’ll just ruin the good thing you have with him. There’s no point in jealousy (unless the guy acts suspicious or you’ve seen him do something wrong)..the only thing it is good for, if anything, is pushing someone away and driving them to do the very thing you may be fearing.
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August 3rd, 2010 at 1:53 pm
I would say next time your dating a guy you really like and are close with, be upfront abou it in a nice way. Tell him you get jealous easy but you dont want him to think you dont trist him. Ask him if he will just be sure to tell you everything about other girls in his life and not keep things from you at all it may ease your pain.
Sorry if i didnt help much.
PS if your mind starts trusting him trust him it makes you vunerable but you cant fall in love without being willing to get heartbroken.
When you fins true love it will all be worth it
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August 3rd, 2010 at 2:29 pm
you sound like a women to me there all like that. but if you dont put your trust in the guy your with and you think hes going to lie about everything then is it really worth being in a relationship if theres no trust? but its your life and you only get one. so you decide is it better to be sad and alone or try trusting the man your with. and whats the worst that could happen you end up alone. but you would have been alone any ways if you never trusted him
sorry if i babbled if you can understand what i mean then i hope it helps good luck
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August 3rd, 2010 at 2:51 pm
It is not wrong to be jealous but everything has limits. You have fear of loosing this person so much because you love him but you have to have a stronger self-esteem. There are many reason to why you would think that way. You might think that you are not pretty or he will find a better person than you.
Stop thinking that way and start focusing more on building your confidence about yourself. This is how I would think. I am not the prettiest person on earth and there are a lot of girls out there that more beautiful than me and that are smarter but I know if my husband loves me he will love me no matter what.
No guy is perfect and no girl is perfect as well. Take it this way, if he loves you then he won’t teach or care for other girls. If he cheats, then it’s good that you knew and your better off without him. Just don’t’ think too much. Love him as much as you can until he proves to you that he is not worth your love, just leave him. Don’t worry, I had friends like you and they learned to overcome many things. It’s a matter of time and the most important thing is that you recognize this in yourself which is a positive thing.
Good Luck
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August 3rd, 2010 at 3:23 pm
Self evaluating is the first step of realizing something is seriously wrong. It comes from insecurities, doubt and fear. Because no human is all knowing, we come and we go, but God remains the same, "Unchanging". We all carry some kind of issue(s) (sin) that we cannot solve alone.
This is where God comes in. He knows that we are inadequate and no one can fix our sin issues but Him through His Son Jesus. If you cast all of your cares upon Him, He will care for you! God will empower you to know how to act in every situation, but you got to let Him clean you out and build you up with His love and truth. Please read Psalms 139:13-18. This will shed some light on what God knows about you, but you must tell Him.
I know it’s hard trusting in something or someone you cannot see, that is why you are having these jealousy bouts. They are serious and will consume you and hurt others, if you don’t get rid of it. Jealousy is a form of hate and then it can turn into murder!
These are some comments that insecure people make: (In Touch Magazine, Dr. Charles Stanley)
*Why bother trying? I’ll never get it right.
*Everyone is looking at me, just waiting for me to make a fool of myself.
*I’m a failure
*I am ugly and awful to look at.
* I can never win, I am just a loser
*Nobody can ever speak well about me
* I have failed before; once a failure, always a failure
*I am an incomplete person, and nothing can change that, etc. etc.
This list goes on and on.
Satan, who is our adversary, want you to feel incapable of handling yourself in any (situation) relationship.
God started relationships in the beginning and He hasn’t left yet.
Will you trust Him with all your issues?
God gives us a spirit that allow us to be in control by Him, and that’s good!
We will hurt ourselves, when we are left to ourselves. God never left us alone like that. We have all walked away from Him and need to be brought back to the Light of His love.
You can e-mail me in private if you want more information
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July 24th, 2011 at 1:38 am
Jealousy is ruining my relationship! He wants me to think about us and if I’m willing to change my ways he will be happy! But I’m lost,confused,angry and distant! I need help