I can’t stop feeling jealous of others?
… I don’t mean the good kind of jealousy that makes you work harder at whatever it is your doing. I’m talking about that sad, moping, over-eating type that I can’t seem to break free from.
For example, today, my friend got her very first boyfriend and I couldn’t help but feel sorry for myself. I mean, I’ve liked guys that liked me before, way more than she has, why am I jealous of her? Could it be because I currently like a guy that doesn’t really seem to like me?
I also can’t seem to lie… Like, I make up stories about what a guy has done for me and stuff like that. The guy is real but not the story =D.
I really want to stop feeling this way, I feel like it’s taking over my life…
One reason I MAY be jealous of my friend is cause she’s done a lot of bad things in her life, and I believe in karma but nothing that bad really ever seems to happen to her… Whereas I have a giant conscience that doesn’t let me do bad, and I’m still unhappy with my life???
Hi Lizzie T.
When you say that your jealously is causing you this much hardship, than I have to say your right. I think that you may be jealous of others, but I also wonder if you are a little depressed, based on the stuff you wrote, ex: your sad, moping, over-eating, a lot of that stuff sounds like you are depressed, and in a rut. Now You say that your friend got her first bf. and you feel sorry for yourself, have you really and I mean really tried to figure out why your jealous of her, is it really the fact that she has a boyfriend, and you don’t because the guy you like doesn’t like you. Do you know this for sure? You also say that you can’t lie, well honestly we all lie, when you tell a story about what a guy has done for you, and he really hasn’t done this stuff, it’s still a lie, even if you are using the real guys name. Have you ever wondered what will happen if you keep telling stories about real guys, but not the real things that he has done for you. It could get spread around that you are making up stories, and than I can tell you for sure that you won’t like the consequences of what might happen by embellishing. You also state that the reason you might be jealous is because of the bad things she has done and that you have a big conscience, so the karma thing that what goes around, comes around. Well I honestly have to say to you that the only way I can see you getting out of this rut, is to not worry,(I know that’s hard) about whether your friend has a bf or not, but to continue being who you are, and to always, and I mean the rest of your life. One don’t ever let someone else judge you. And most importantly that means yourself. We are our worst enemy when it comes to judgement. Again just go out and be yourself, and stop(if possible) worrying about your friend having a bf. If you keep a positive attitude, and don’t show your jealously to other people, and even if you are jealous, just act like your not, and believe it or not eventually your jealously will go away. Be a positive, happy person around others, and others will eventually be positive, happy, and upbeat to you. So much good luck. This cycle that your in can only stop from you. We can over advise, but the only one who can change you, simply put is you.
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August 1st, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Firstly i encourage u for the step to shed away a vice, i.e. jealousy.
Then….
Just think in this manner, that r u jealous of a customer who is wearing a larger size of a garment, or shoe than U ? U r not, rite?
Y?
Bcoz, that wouldn’t fit u, though it may have some extra amount of material.
So, is everything in this world, each object, man, thing, relationship which we don’t have, r someway or other a misfit for us.
Fitting or clicking is always from both the sides, so it isn’t ur deficiency or efficiency, its just being different, dat’s all.
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:08 pm
Hi Lizzie T.
When you say that your jealously is causing you this much hardship, than I have to say your right. I think that you may be jealous of others, but I also wonder if you are a little depressed, based on the stuff you wrote, ex: your sad, moping, over-eating, a lot of that stuff sounds like you are depressed, and in a rut. Now You say that your friend got her first bf. and you feel sorry for yourself, have you really and I mean really tried to figure out why your jealous of her, is it really the fact that she has a boyfriend, and you don’t because the guy you like doesn’t like you. Do you know this for sure? You also say that you can’t lie, well honestly we all lie, when you tell a story about what a guy has done for you, and he really hasn’t done this stuff, it’s still a lie, even if you are using the real guys name. Have you ever wondered what will happen if you keep telling stories about real guys, but not the real things that he has done for you. It could get spread around that you are making up stories, and than I can tell you for sure that you won’t like the consequences of what might happen by embellishing. You also state that the reason you might be jealous is because of the bad things she has done and that you have a big conscience, so the karma thing that what goes around, comes around. Well I honestly have to say to you that the only way I can see you getting out of this rut, is to not worry,(I know that’s hard) about whether your friend has a bf or not, but to continue being who you are, and to always, and I mean the rest of your life. One don’t ever let someone else judge you. And most importantly that means yourself. We are our worst enemy when it comes to judgement. Again just go out and be yourself, and stop(if possible) worrying about your friend having a bf. If you keep a positive attitude, and don’t show your jealously to other people, and even if you are jealous, just act like your not, and believe it or not eventually your jealously will go away. Be a positive, happy person around others, and others will eventually be positive, happy, and upbeat to you. So much good luck. This cycle that your in can only stop from you. We can over advise, but the only one who can change you, simply put is you.
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