HOWHOW CAN I STOP FEELING JEALOUS AND MAD OVER MY NEW HALF BROTHER?
My dad and mum broke up wen i was 13 which it hit me pretty hard. I now live with mi mum whilst mi dad lives far away in Chesterfield. Which means I only get to see himbaround twice a month which sucks. He s got a new family now a new wife and baby son. When I was little my dad wasnt around that often he was away on work alot so he missed out on wen I was little. He s now changed his job he s jobs 5mins away from his house so he s home alot of the time now which means spendin lots of time with mi new brother, a cant help but feel jealous because I knew that he missed out with me because he wasnt there. How can I stop feeling this jealousy. HELP PLEZ
Openly tell your Dad how you feel and I’m sure he will talk to you about it. I understand how you feel and why you feel jealous but you need to think too…this baby brother of yours was born into this world not by his choice either. His parents gave him life so he has no choice either how much time Dad spends with him. Just love your brother and enjoy the time you do get to spend with your Dad.
Sorry, but in real life…things aren’t always fair and YES it sucks, but try to get past that and forgive your Dad as Dads are only human too…
Jealousy is a dangerous emotion and will only cause pain..so try to rise above it all, that is part of growing up-to accept that everything will not always be the way that we want it.
Best of luck
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August 7th, 2010 at 8:28 pm
people change i tink u shud talk to him i dont really see it as fair
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August 7th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
Openly tell your Dad how you feel and I’m sure he will talk to you about it. I understand how you feel and why you feel jealous but you need to think too…this baby brother of yours was born into this world not by his choice either. His parents gave him life so he has no choice either how much time Dad spends with him. Just love your brother and enjoy the time you do get to spend with your Dad.
Sorry, but in real life…things aren’t always fair and YES it sucks, but try to get past that and forgive your Dad as Dads are only human too…
Jealousy is a dangerous emotion and will only cause pain..so try to rise above it all, that is part of growing up-to accept that everything will not always be the way that we want it.
Best of luck
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August 7th, 2010 at 9:58 pm
I think the best thing you could do is being honest. Tell your dad how you feel about it. I don’t know how old you are know and how good the contact with your father is, but if you don’t talk about it you won’t feel better. And if it ain’t an option for you to talk with your dad, talk about it with friends and family. You’ve to get it off your chest. Maybe your friends have really good tips, they know you a lot more better as I do.
hope it helped, xx
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August 7th, 2010 at 10:26 pm
Try to remember that he has no control over what happens. Any more than you do. He’s innocent of all blame. If you will try you can build a good relationship with him and have a little brother to share life with. Set back and watch. You might just find out that having Dad around more isn’t as great as you thought it would be. Be glad for what you have and make the most of it. When you get a quiet time with your Dad explain how you feel and tell Dad how much you want him in your life.
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August 7th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
I think this question that you’ve just written would be a good thing to type out again for him. Also, it might be worth showing him some of the answers if any of them seem wise to you. It’s understandable to feel rejected – I would too in the same circumstances, but although you may not directly be able to change the way you feel, you can change the way you act – and different feelings will follow on from that. It will go against you if you act hurt and angry, but if you are pleasant company for your Dad it’ll be easier for him to reconnect with you (he has feelings too and might be embarassed about what has happened to you. Don’t drive him into a corner because that’ll just set up bad feeling).
Also, in other families where the same Mum and Dad have remained together there can still be feelings of jealousy when there’s a new baby or a child who needs more attention than everyone else (I hope that helps to give you a balanced view.) All the very best to you and I hope things really improve
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August 7th, 2010 at 11:19 pm
I feel for you. My Mum died when I was 16 and my Dad remarried and they had a new baby. My Dad was also away a lot of the time when I was growing up, he worked on the oil rigs so I didn’t spend that much time with him. I didn’t get on with my step-mum and I left (not voluntarily) when I had just turned 18. I missed my half brother growing up because I felt just like you do now.
My Dad and step-mum went on to have another son who is now 8 and my other half brother is now almost 20 and expecting his own son. I live abroad now and couldn’t see them even if I wanted to. I went home in August and finally got to know the two amazing half brothers that I am so lucky to have. Don’t wast time feeling jealous, your baby brother can;t help any of this. Make the effort to be part of your Dad’s new family, that means his wife as well as their baby. Being able to see your Dad twice a month is better than nothing, make the most of the time you spend with him and his new family, make sure you are a part of your half brother’s life and don’t leave it until he is having kids of his own.
Good luck!!!
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