how to stop jealousy with a flirty boyfriend?
Okay, so my boyfriend is really flirty and I admit sometimes it gets to me! It gets to the point where girls think that he likes them, but he is just a really sweet/nice and flirty guy, what should I do? I’ve talked to him about it before and he just cant help it, thats how he has always been, and I don’t think he needs to change, but how do I stop it from getting to me? And the relationship is now long distance so I feel even worse because I have no idea what he is doing!
Long distance is even trickier and the rules of engagement change. Its easier in a long distance relationship to get jealous (like you are now) but its also easier to stray when you’re not getting enough physical fulfillment (which he may be doing) Note this does not necessarily mean sex or kissing, but the bodily responses of women flirting with him. Speak honestly about it to him, but if he can’t change or keeps on making excuses for it, then you deserve better. Relationships are about respect, and if his behavior is really making you feel uncomfortable or unhappy you should express it honestly and if he can’t accept that and stop leading other girls on (or whatever is going on there), then you need to find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Especially if its long distance, don’t waste your time on a guy that makes you anxious and worried without any of the added benefits of physical affection which comes with proximity.
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August 13th, 2010 at 1:29 am
Build confidence in you. I can relate to you because i was once very jealous with my gf, she is an engineer and she works mostly with guys and she is very beautiful (for me) and it used to get in my nerves to think about guys asking her out and all that stuff.
All you need is to build confidence and self-steam in you, a lot!! Think about it, if you think that you are a good woman ( there is a difference on thinking you are the best and not showing it, and thinking you are the best and being cocky) and unique then it wont matter to you if your bf is flirty or if girls like him, because you know that, if he ends up leaving you, it will be his loss and not yours!!
But you really have to talk to him about it to, he cant just be flirty anytime he wants to be and he cant be too nice to anyone either, since he has to give you respect, and he is now committed to a relationship with you!! People do things for their partners only when true love is involved.
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August 13th, 2010 at 1:57 am
Long distance is even trickier and the rules of engagement change. Its easier in a long distance relationship to get jealous (like you are now) but its also easier to stray when you’re not getting enough physical fulfillment (which he may be doing) Note this does not necessarily mean sex or kissing, but the bodily responses of women flirting with him. Speak honestly about it to him, but if he can’t change or keeps on making excuses for it, then you deserve better. Relationships are about respect, and if his behavior is really making you feel uncomfortable or unhappy you should express it honestly and if he can’t accept that and stop leading other girls on (or whatever is going on there), then you need to find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Especially if its long distance, don’t waste your time on a guy that makes you anxious and worried without any of the added benefits of physical affection which comes with proximity.
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November 7th, 2011 at 9:55 pm
well I have a boyfriend and he is so sweet, charming and is too nice. When it comes to females who like him and he kows that they likes him instead of trying to address this problem, whenever they would either go to talk to him he would stay right there. My problem with him is that he she just too nice he cares alot about how the person would feel in that situation but would block me out. I believe that they key factor to a good relationship is trust. I try to trust him but at times i just can’t help to to think otherwise. what can anyone has to say?