Hi
These are the main problems I have, which push people away & make me feel like crap.
I don’t know how to stop. I have depression & anxiety & the one thing i want more than anything is to just feel wanted & loved by someone, or ANYONE.
I have a boyfriend, but this does give me the satisfaction I want. I accuse him of cheating if a female writes anything on his wall. I’m extremely possessive & obsessive over things like that, it causes arguments which pushes him away & prefer other people.
I just dont know how to stop feeling jealous, possessive & obsessive over people (friend & family too).
I care way too much & i’ve verged on being suicidal because all the feelings of being unwanted/unloved & unaccepted & constantly jealous, just make me feel worthless.
How can I stop? Im on anti-deps & Im about to see a psychotherapist soon.
But whats some tips you can give on detaching myself/making myself ‘uncare’, & stop being overly jealous & possessive?
Hi there
I am glad that you will receive some help from a psychotherapist soon. He/she will help you over time to work through your problems. It is difficult when you are feeling low and depressed to be able to focus on relationships and friendships outside of your own worries and concerns. Depression makes us look inward and we can often forget there is a world out there we just can’t see.Why am I saying this? If you are feeling unwell and worried, you will naturally try physically and emotionally to hang on to people in your surroundings. Also if you are unwell and have low self confidence, you might worry that your partner might reject you or be suspicious of his actions. By talking to your therapist as honestly as you could possibly be, you will get to the root cause of your insecurities and then you can learn new strategies to overcome them. Try talking to your partner so he will understand what you are feeling. Also write a diary (in confidence)-write down all the worries you have ,sometimes by getting it out onto paper can help to see sense and also help you to get to the bottom of your worries.The diary could form part of your therapy and you could discuss issues form it with your therapist.