How To Control Sexual Jealousy
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With a little self-awareness, you can learn to tame your green-eyed monster.
To complete this How-To you will need:
An honest assessment of your relationship
The courage to change things
Visualization
Step 1: Realize jealousy is normal
Realize that some jealousy in a relationship is perfectly normal. It only becomes destructive when it is an ongoing point of contention.
Step 2: Assess your relationship
Figure out the driving force behind your jealousy. Are you afraid you might lose your partner to someone else? Or are you angry at being disrespected when they flirt with others?
Step 3: Figure out the real problem
If fear of losing your partner is the problem, ask yourself if you’re insecure because you have low self-esteem, or because you feel your partner is not as committed to the relationship as you are.
Tip: If your partner is a flirt, consider that this simply may be their nature. The tipoff? They flirt with everyone — young, old, skinny, fat, attractive, and homely.
Step 4: Work on yourself
If low self-esteem is the problem, work on building yours by using self-help books or working with a therapist.
Tip: Try this visualization technique: The next time you’re feeling jealous, therapists recommend conjuring up a pleasant scene in your mind or recall a happy memory.
Step 5: Reevaluate your relationship
If you come to the conclusion that your anger and jealousy are well founded and rooted in your partner’s disrespect and possible philandering, consider ending your relationship. You deserve a partner that makes you feel loved and treasured, not angry and mistrustful.
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August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
@Kakashigirl250 ME …
@Kakashigirl250 ME TOO GIRL! Crap, I wish I could get over it…
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
first!
first!
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Today I learned …
Today I learned that jealousy means you don’t trust the person and its just an infatuation, not ‘love’.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Green eyed monster? …
Green eyed monster? Sounds like someone’s got the jack!
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
@warlockmasta how …
@warlockmasta how does that help?
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
wow she’s gorgeous.
wow she’s gorgeous.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
hahaha! the NES
hahaha! the NES
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Iam jealous because …
Iam jealous because I dont have a partner
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Yes. Not everyone …
Yes. Not everyone should be coupled. Men without empathy make terrible boyfriends. Professional women are a bad coupling for noncompetative men.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
@ToxicOdiousOne …
@ToxicOdiousOne some people were meant to be lonely, and unpaired? Do yo mean that some people, because of their personalities, would be happier alone?
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
rofl cook
rofl cook
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Insecurity is when …
Insecurity is when we allow others to convince us that we are not competant or good enough to handle tasks. Security won’t comes externally. Dobut and insecurity are all this is fostered externally. Pride and confidence are fostered internally. You must counter their ableism with confidence that you are competant enough to handle the tasks at hand. Yes. You need to make yorself feel secure. Your coworkers, supervisor, your lover, and others will question your abilities. Act confident.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
well sometimes …
well sometimes people give you reasons to be jealous..then again i get insecure a lot but idk..maybe one of these days i’ll find someone who will make me feel secure or maybe ill need to make myself feel secure..
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
@chizzy555 , no not …
@chizzy555 , no not necessarily, you can be real good in bed but sometimes she may be curious to see if someone else can put it down like you, so don’t ever think just because someone is good in bed doesn’t mean you won’t get cheated on
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Ask yourself why am …
Ask yourself why am I jealous of x? Do I have any rational reason to envy them? Perhaps we are not jealous of them. Perhaps we need to set clear boundaries in the relationship and not back down. We make an ultimatum either you give me respect to get respect or this relationship is over. Demand respect. Respect includes honesty. If they are unwilling end whatever relationship you have with that person. There’s no sense in admiring the great qualities in someone who doesn’t respect you.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Pinpoint in your …
Pinpoint in your mind and not to them their moral failings. It’s your life. Your life. No one else’s. Don’t let others make demands of you. We only die once. I don’t want an enforced existence. I want to maximize my freedom. We put people on pedestals because of external values. Societal or cultural values. We have like this person because of their position. We must back the President. Bull. They must have legitimacy. They must prove their value to us. If they treat us abusively why value them?
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Stop desiring the …
Stop desiring the object of contention. If you don’t they will hold it over your head like an albatross in an attempt to shame you for it later. Don’t give the enemy a weapon to assail you with. Solve jealousy by stopping petty bickering.Pick your battles. Sometimes we may not get our way. If we always insist on getting our way we will end up alone. Some people were meant to be lonely and unpaired. This is not everybody.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Since jealousy is …
Since jealousy is hate with admiration, first stop admiring the which you detest. Reason out your hatred. You hate yourself because of an unfairness you believe the other party exploits. Instead of having admiration for those who don’t have to follow the rules, revile them but do not admire them. You don’t want to emulate their amorality. Hate them for the right reason. Not that they can get away with it. Hate them for their arrogance and irresponsibility and do not become what you hate.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
You deserve a …
You deserve a partner that makes you feel loved and treasured not angry and distrustful.. i like that
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
which is?
which is?
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
The method I use is …
The method I use is called removing the object of controversy.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Jealousy is hate …
Jealousy is hate with admiration. It is hate with putting someone on a pedestal above you. find reasons to hate them so that you no longer put them on a pedestal. Develop self esteem and put you on a pedestal. You are the most important person in your life and selfishness is survival.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
Find a reason to …
Find a reason to hate it. Just as with poor habits you come up with reason to hate the activity or the person. Keep thinking of those reasons that you hate it, and eventually your first thought will be that you hate it because it causes you to become jealous.
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
next vid,
how to …
next vid,
how to slap your bitch
August 10th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
finding your inner …
finding your inner awesomeness. thats a book i need to read