How do I stop my jealousy?
Ok, so it’s always been evident that my friend and I have been jealous of each other. But I seem to be the one not able to overcome it. I’m not even sure what I’m jealous of, just that it’s hard to feel happy for her. Maybe it’s that she has more close friends than i do. But she always says I have more friends. She even said once that my life was perfect.
But she is able to congratulate me whole heartedly when something good happens to me. Rather, when something good happens to her, I seem to be in a bad mood.
How an I stop myself from being so jealous?
Tell yourself life has its up and downs, and you girls will be there for each other. Remind yourself that life is not a competition but a struggle that needs all the support you can have to make it through.
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August 1st, 2010 at 3:49 pm
u shud both site down and talk about y ur having truble w/ her
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:27 pm
Deep down inside you may not like your friend like you think you do. You both should re-evaluate the friendship. Eventually, your obvious jealousy will end your friendship because you continue to be a negative person towards her and anything she does that gives a cause to be praised for. If they have grown out of their jealousy, then maybe you should grow up too or get another friend who doesnt spark your green eyed monster.
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:41 pm
it is sad but true….some people have to practice making compliments and being happy/excited for others before they genuinely mean it and do it without thinking…everyone has different personalities and sometimes compliments are harder to give out. It doesn’t mean that you are an evil, bad mannered person. You should really try to work on this, because this can effect your relationships and friendships. If you can afford it or you can get it for free, I would seek a counselor’s or psychologist’s help. Counselors and psychologists are great for helping you figure out what type of personality you have and they can help you deal with some things that may seem like blemishes.
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personal experience and school teacher that sees students go through this a lot
August 1st, 2010 at 5:20 pm
Tell yourself life has its up and downs, and you girls will be there for each other. Remind yourself that life is not a competition but a struggle that needs all the support you can have to make it through.
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August 1st, 2010 at 5:58 pm
It is possible to be happy for a friend while also feeling sad about what she has that you don’t. That is different than resenting her happiness. When you don’t like when good things happen to her, is it b/c it is making you feel bad or b/c there is something about her that is really annoying? Does she gloat, or e-mail you that she has something she just HAS to tell you and you know she really just wants to brag, or does she go on and on about how wonderful her life is, is she insensitive to what is going on with yours and how it might make you feel to hear her good news? If it is any of those reasons, then it’s easy to see why you woud have a hard time feeling happy for her. Or maybe what she gets is hitting a nerve with you and it’s not her fault. If she has an easy time being happy for you and it seems genuine, then she is a good friend and you will have to work on trying not to get too down when she gets something that makes you feel jealous. Decide whether she is a good friend or not. If she’s not, forget her if she makes you feel bad. If she is, then just understand it’s perfectly okay to be happy for her while also feeling sad for yourself.
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August 1st, 2010 at 6:39 pm
I can really see where your coming from.I used to be jelouse of my friend.I got over it by seeing that me feeling bad about her doing good did nothing whatsoever to help out friendship,that if i keept being like this then soon my friend would get tirerd of it and simply leave.I imagined myself living her life only then did i see that it wasnt so perfect afterall.I also generally grew out of it which you will do soon i imagine.God luck to you xx =]
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personal experince