How do i raise my self-esteem..?
I am not confident enough with myself..
I get really jealous with this guy who my best friends met.. Hes good at everything.. So my friends might chose him rather than me..
how do i raise my self-esteem so that i wont feel intimidated and will feel good about myself and not feel out of place..???
positive self-talk does a lot for people. keep repeating that you CAN do something. not only that, sit down somewhere quiet, close your eyes, slow yours breaths and then picture yourself in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in, take in and recognize all of the emotions you feel when you recognize you aren’t comfortable. then you can go two ways. i would suggest doing both of these because it helps you get to know yourself and your limits and potential better but its personal choice. once you’ve realized what makes you nervous about something, change the picture in your head. Instead of feeling nervous, picture yourself being confident, repeating "I am strong, I am confident"
(or something along those lines) and then picture yourself succeeding in the situation you were nervous in. imagine how you would feel to be able to not be intimidated, didn’t feel out of place etc.
another thing to do might be to think about what your place should be for you. its normal to feel out of place but recognizing if it really should bother you or not goes a long way to feeling more confident.
good luck. and remember, you are worth it. You can do it. and, you are not alone.
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:10 pm
Go beat somebody up.
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:25 pm
Try counseling. What makes you this way? Have you always been this way, or has something happened to make you react/feel this way? Try exercise. Exercise creates endorphines, and endorphines make people happy. Good luck. Feel better.
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August 1st, 2010 at 4:42 pm
They say a 30 minute brisk walk every day has the same effect as anti-depressants!
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Go for a walk.
August 1st, 2010 at 4:55 pm
Respect yourself first, then people will respect you.
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August 1st, 2010 at 5:45 pm
You could try counseling.
You just have to believe in yourself, and have confidence. Try not to let any and every little thing bring you down.
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August 1st, 2010 at 6:27 pm
First of all get rid of jealousy, people see it and it makes you look weaker. Learn from your best friend. If your friends chooses him then they are not your friends. Don’t try to be like him, you are an individual and he IS NOT good at everything you just think so, because of the way you feel. Try something on your own, something that will interest you, after you get really good at it……….people will notice. Jealousy wears a person out, don’t be this way. Learn to be happy for the person and see how things will change. signed Julie
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August 1st, 2010 at 7:06 pm
just be your self. if you worry about this guy and act nervous then it will show, try being his friend. also try thinking of other things you can do/say befor you meet up with your friends, then you have something to talk about. And if its still bothering you then beat him up.
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August 1st, 2010 at 7:39 pm
positive self-talk does a lot for people. keep repeating that you CAN do something. not only that, sit down somewhere quiet, close your eyes, slow yours breaths and then picture yourself in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in, take in and recognize all of the emotions you feel when you recognize you aren’t comfortable. then you can go two ways. i would suggest doing both of these because it helps you get to know yourself and your limits and potential better but its personal choice. once you’ve realized what makes you nervous about something, change the picture in your head. Instead of feeling nervous, picture yourself being confident, repeating "I am strong, I am confident"
(or something along those lines) and then picture yourself succeeding in the situation you were nervous in. imagine how you would feel to be able to not be intimidated, didn’t feel out of place etc.
another thing to do might be to think about what your place should be for you. its normal to feel out of place but recognizing if it really should bother you or not goes a long way to feeling more confident.
good luck. and remember, you are worth it. You can do it. and, you are not alone.
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August 1st, 2010 at 7:44 pm
It’s simple. It’s something I’ve been doing the past few years and I went from being classified as low self-esteem to over-confident(so it means I went too far. haha)
Anyway, every morning when you wake up and every night before you sleep, repeat these words to yourself: "I am the best. Why should I care what people think? What matters is that I KNOW that I am great!"
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August 1st, 2010 at 7:52 pm
If your friends are real friends they should not have to pick and chose whether they want to hang out with you. Even though some people are real shallow, your friends should like what you bring to the table as a friend. If they were to pick this other guy over you, you know they weren’t real friends to begin with. I think you should just be yourself and then all the rest will just fall into place. Maybe you should also try different activities that you normally wouldn’t try sometimes that can help. Well it helped me.
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August 1st, 2010 at 8:33 pm
Most are repelled by the green-eyed monster, so try to ease up on the jealousy. For this, you must learn to appreciate your own accomplishments and not worry so much over the accomplishments of others. Set goals for yourself and go after them. Each time you complete a task you’ve set for yourself you will feel more accomplish and boost your self-esteem.
Also, as mentioned above, exercise is a natural anti-depressant, go for a walk, or better yet, a nice jog.
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