12 Responses to “How do I not get jealous?”

1. ua1994 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   “if he finds …
   “if he finds someone made him happier than me, i love him enough to let him go”. i admire your inner strength.bless you.

2. lina8208 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   Either way, you …
   Either way, you cannot trust anyone 100% whether you’re in a open relationship or not. Your partner might want to leave you anyway, even for someone else, even without cheating first. One can never be completly sure.

3. lina8208 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   We are taught that …
   We are taught that monagamy is a sign of commitment and love which often times isn’t the case. There are countless people who have monagamous yet lovless relationship. Just because you let you partner have sex with others or date others doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you or your relationship, you can just be trusting and freespirited. If you’re not dependent on someone or insecure in some way you can have an open relationship.

4. lina8208 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   An open …
   An open relationship or a polyamorous relationship is possible if the relationship is steady. I’m not a jelous woman myself so I could be involved in those type of alternative relationships.
   I believe jelousy can be triggered by numerous factors such as: insecurity, not having your needs fullfilled, lack of trust, big ego, fear etc. I also think a lot of people have trouble with living an alternative lifstyle from fear of being judged or fear of what that would imply.

5. lina8208 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   I think the most …
   I think the most imortant thing in a relationship is that you and your partner are compatible. That you have a set of rules you live by and agree on them and follow them. You should both be caring, trusting and honest.

6. topformfitness Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   OK, I agree …
   OK, I agree anything is possible. Hell, the idea of “swinging” sounds pretty ideal as a man! I guess it’s just been my experience, having known several people in “open” relationships, that they don’t typically last, or at least have more issues. But Kudos to you if it’s working for ya!

7. chantelleaustin Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   And that’s a fair …
   And that’s a fair comment from someone who’s not experienced the potential of it… it’s really hard to explain what it is like, and I honestly didn’t expect that swinging could make the bonds between us stronger but it did and I’ve met other swingers who have found the exact same thing… it’s like the less is more principle – logically it doesn’t make sense but that’s just how it works so while you don’t understand it, and can’t see it happening for yourself, it is absolutely possible

8. topformfitness Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   A little “jealousy” …
   A little “jealousy” is a good thing (if that’s what you want to call it). Alot is not… but if you don’t care that your lover is screwing other people then I would think that suggests something is missing in that relationship. Perhaps your situation is different, but I can’t see you could ever feel the same closeness to someone if you are a “swinger”.

9. Daydragon1234 Says:
   July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

   sounds like that …
   sounds like that could never be me =(

10. politas Says:
    July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

    Sounds like you got …
    Sounds like you got it all worked out. Congrats!

11. vwstreak Says:
    July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

    I love some of your …
    I love some of your views!!! Although I’m not a swinger per se – loving someone enough that you can let them go and holding a bird tightly – you coudn’t have said it better!

12. pinupcalendar Says:
    July 23rd, 2010 at 3:39 pm

    Again Chantelle – …
    Again Chantelle – you are so brave and so honest. I love what you have shared here about swinging and jealousy – it is so true that the moment we think we own someone the love has already begun to die. I congratulate you on sharing very important ideas.

    @mistressmia

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