How do i get higher self-esteem?
and stop being jealous of my friends
My self-esteem changes at differnt times of the month lol.After ‘ menstruation’ for about weeks its high , then the rest of the time i gets gradually lower and lower..
Self esteem is mind over matter. Jealousy is only in the mind and your friend should be what matters. And this is what I mean:
Just keep in mind, you are just as good as anyone else and that includes your friends. Whatever you want for yourself, you should want just as good for your friend or even better. This is teaching you to be unselfish or as you say jealous.
When we teach ourselves to be unselfish we teaches ourselves not to be jealous. For example, if you see that your friends are getting much more attention than you, keep in mind, they may deserve it at that time and your time to get attention will eventually come. Put positive things in your mind at that time of jealousy. We must not ever be jealous of someone we care for even those we care less about.
Keeping a positive mind, will pick up your self-esteem in any situation.
I am proud to tell my kids that I graduated at the bottom of my class when I was in high school. But when I graduated from college, I graduated with all honors except for in nursing school, that was another story. I was probably again at the bottom of the list, but you know what, that doesn’t matter, I continues to keep a positive mind. I can’t do everything and everything can’t out do me.
We are all human and has many flaws, how we correct them is what really counts.
Good blessings in all of your endearvors. When you seek, you will find, including finding yourself.
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July 30th, 2010 at 7:53 pm
Make a list of 5 things that you like about yourself and see as strengths.
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July 30th, 2010 at 8:32 pm
I used to be extremely jealous of one of my friends…I mean, like I wanted to be her…it seemed that she had everything and she had the perfect life…but I started reading these psychology books and in one of the books, it explained how we are always constantly playing negative tapes in our mind, and that causes everyone else to have the illusion of a perfect life…what I did was I made a chart and I compared me and that friend on a chart listing things that I like about myself and things that I wanted that she had…when I made that list I realized that I wasn’t inferior to her and that we were both human and that I even had things that she didn’t…so, try making a chart comparing yourself to your friends and find out what they have that you don’t, it’s likely that all they have that you don’t is confidence
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July 30th, 2010 at 8:52 pm
When my self-esteem is low, I like to do things to pick it up. Either socialize more or exercise (to feel better on the inside).
Well wishes,
Charles
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July 30th, 2010 at 9:28 pm
Try taking up a sport. Not only will it release endorphines that will make you feel good, but you will also gain more energy and feel more prepared to take on the world. You’ll also be staying in shape, which will help you feel more attractive physically.
I used to have problems with self esteem so I joined my local karate club. It gave me buckets of self confidence, kept me fit, introduced me to new people and generally made me feel a lot better about myself.
If you feel up to it, try a martial art (make sure it’s one where the instructor respects the pupils though). They are well known for giving self confidence to people and you can see your progression as you get graded.
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July 30th, 2010 at 9:51 pm
Compared to others, start over estimating yourself.
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July 30th, 2010 at 10:23 pm
Self esteem is mind over matter. Jealousy is only in the mind and your friend should be what matters. And this is what I mean:
Just keep in mind, you are just as good as anyone else and that includes your friends. Whatever you want for yourself, you should want just as good for your friend or even better. This is teaching you to be unselfish or as you say jealous.
When we teach ourselves to be unselfish we teaches ourselves not to be jealous. For example, if you see that your friends are getting much more attention than you, keep in mind, they may deserve it at that time and your time to get attention will eventually come. Put positive things in your mind at that time of jealousy. We must not ever be jealous of someone we care for even those we care less about.
Keeping a positive mind, will pick up your self-esteem in any situation.
I am proud to tell my kids that I graduated at the bottom of my class when I was in high school. But when I graduated from college, I graduated with all honors except for in nursing school, that was another story. I was probably again at the bottom of the list, but you know what, that doesn’t matter, I continues to keep a positive mind. I can’t do everything and everything can’t out do me.
We are all human and has many flaws, how we correct them is what really counts.
Good blessings in all of your endearvors. When you seek, you will find, including finding yourself.
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Major: psychology, sociology, biology, nursing
July 30th, 2010 at 10:31 pm
To know your shelf and understand your shelf . Or read Freud psychoanalytic theory ( the Id the ego and the superego …….
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July 30th, 2010 at 10:55 pm
Join the club on the time of the month thing!
I am very self confident but at a certain time of the month I won’t leave the house.
Pick up a book to read when you start your self dought moods.
Train your mind to switch off.
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