How can I stop feeling jealous with my husband?
I trust him completely. But he is a really attractive guy, and he BMXs, so he’s at the skatepark a lot. And there are a lot of girls who try to get with guys there, and I worry a lot. I don’t trust other girls with him. And lastnight, he was texting a girl for several hours, catching up because they were old friends. It made me really uncomfortable, and even though I told him how it was making me feel, he was still talking to her constantly. We are completely devoted to eachother, and I know he would never do anything to hurt me. But whenever he talks to any girl, I get this heavy feeling in my stomach and I feel sick. The thought of another girl flirting with him, thinking she has a chance makes my stomach churn. I am extremely insecure, and I worry too much. I know couples get over jealousy issues eventually, but how can I stop feeling jealous now?
Honey, listen to your gut instinct about this….
You told him how it made you feel upset, and he CHOSE to continue conversation with this woman. That’s not right. You’re feeling jelous because his actions are communicating to you that he finds texting other women more important than really listening to what you said and doing what was right by you.
He should have talked with you about what he was texting her, texting is very secretive.
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July 26th, 2010 at 9:29 am
Honey, listen to your gut instinct about this….
You told him how it made you feel upset, and he CHOSE to continue conversation with this woman. That’s not right. You’re feeling jelous because his actions are communicating to you that he finds texting other women more important than really listening to what you said and doing what was right by you.
He should have talked with you about what he was texting her, texting is very secretive.
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July 26th, 2010 at 9:51 am
If he respected you, he would quit talking to her if it makes you feel like that
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July 26th, 2010 at 10:00 am
Well first things first.. If he is talking to another woman and your upset over it and he completely could care less and continues talking to her for HOURS.. Then there is a HUGE problem in your relationship. For one yes you may be overly jealous, but he is not taking your feelings into consideration and basically saying F off I’m going to talk to her in your face and I do not care if it upset you. And that my dear is WRONG. So think about that, and tell me if he is completely devoted to you or not. I’d have to say NO. If my husband did that it would be OVER.
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July 26th, 2010 at 10:37 am
WTF, skate park…maybe he should get a job!
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July 26th, 2010 at 11:23 am
wow check your yearbooks and look for some old friend and text the hell out of him also to catch up
let’s see how he feels
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July 26th, 2010 at 11:56 am
I don’t think you actually trust him completely as you state. I think your gut is telling you something. Is he young too (under 30) than you may have valid fears. It doesn’t mean he will cheat on you, but it doesn’t take much for a guy in his 20′s to stray, especially if the girls are decent looking. No offense guys…
Good luck!
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July 26th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Okay, first of all marriage is worth working through. It is not something to end a marriage over. This is why divorce rates are high- people get divorced before they even have discovered an actual problem.
As for your problem, I would recommend that you find a counselor to talk about this. Not JUST about that, but about how to communicate. If you and your husband are in a devoted relationship, then the intensity of your feelings is obviously not being communicated with your husband. There is a miscommunication that is probably not either of your fault. Have you said "is there any way you can keep texting to women down to half hour? Catching up is one thing but I feel uncomfortable with how often you talk with other women."
If your instinct says there is a problem, maybe there is. You guys really need to find a way to communicate.
This might be a bit of help, and it is funny
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BxckAMaTDc
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July 26th, 2010 at 12:47 pm
well you text a hunk for an hour and see how he feels!
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July 26th, 2010 at 1:13 pm
maybe you are not telling him he’s attractive enough men need to hear this everyday too becuz if you don’t he will get it from someone else
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