How can I stop being jealous of my girlfriends past?
I sometimes have a totally irrational jealousy over my girlfriends past boyfriends. I know everyone has a past and what she did before she met me was totally her business. She was never a slut but had slept with 4 other guys by the age of 26 which isn’t unreasonable at all. I was certainly no angel before I met her but I find it really hard to get out of my head the fact that she was sexually active before she met me. Help! I really love her and want to stop these thoughts.
grow up and deal with it
July 26th, 2010 at 9:46 am
grow up and deal with it
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July 26th, 2010 at 9:56 am
theres a reason shes with you now. dont’ worry about what she did with anyone else. as long as shes with you now your better than those guys, thats why there ex’s.
answer mine please.
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July 26th, 2010 at 10:38 am
speak with her about these thoughts, she may understand and help you.
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July 26th, 2010 at 10:51 am
be jealous all you want, who cares
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Elle
July 26th, 2010 at 10:57 am
Condition yourself to let go of attachments and envies. They are the path that lead to destruction.
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July 26th, 2010 at 11:05 am
well..if u r not jealous..u r not in love.
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July 26th, 2010 at 11:39 am
If you "really" love her, you’ll respect the past she has lived as being part of who she is and why you love her so. If you "really" love her, you’ll respect her and treat her kindly and concentrate only on the here and now. I’m guessing, however, that you don’t "really" love her… do you?
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July 26th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Just tell yourself they probably weren’t any good lol..
just kidding, i dont know really.
Good luck
x
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July 26th, 2010 at 12:28 pm
well since you cannot control the past you really cant do much there.. and just stop caring about what she did before you so much.. it doesnt matter at all.. what matters is what is happening now with you and her
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July 26th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
Sounds like you are very insecure. Those relationships ended for a reason. She is with you for a reason. If she wanted to be with the past boyfriends she would be, but she’s not!
Consider her past trysts as practice for you!
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July 26th, 2010 at 1:20 pm
Everyone in life will always have a bad and good in the past. it’s better to let it go then to hang on to it. thinking about it will only make you more jealous. jealousy is one of the things that can deteriorate a relationship and can also lead to insecurity. that is one of the reason why i let my recent relationship go. the past is the past, the present is now. so just try and be the better man you are to her
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July 26th, 2010 at 1:51 pm
You do know what your problems are, but the one thing you’re going to have to do is ACCEPT the fact she was w/others, as were you too. You yourself know how you feel about the ones you were with in that they no longer mean anything to you & that she also feels the same way you do about her end of things w/others. They were part of your pasts & that’s where they are, the past. You could give a hoot less about your past experiences, she feels the same as you. If she didn’t, she wouldn’t be w/you now, she’s be w/one of them. She no doubt even gives them second tho’t as do you. So just accept the fact the past is the past & that’s where it’s going to stay. Set yourself free & let go of this. You’re only letting this hurt you & actually letting it control you. It’s not even worth taking up the space in your mind, so let go of the control you’re allowing it to have over you & make up your mind you’re going to let it all go once in for all. Just tell yourself you’re going to stop letting this control you any longer. Let that weight roll off your shoulders once & for all, you’ll feel tons better not carrying around that extra baggage! You CAN do it, DO IT…Best to you…:)
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July 26th, 2010 at 2:39 pm
Please grow up!
Thanks you just made me feel like a 30y old virgin.
This is the reason why couples shouldn’t talk about their past relationship with their honey, it’s to much for the mind to deal with. How many sexual partners have you had til the point you meet her? I’ m sure she doesn’t like that # either.
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December 12th, 2011 at 4:06 pm
4?! your girl is angle. mine got railed by at least 100 guys by age 26. how do you think i feel? still love her.