It has been going on for some time. She attended all of my brother’s extracurricular activities in high school. I don’t remember her going to all of mine. My brother got his braces, a car, and many of his college expenses paid for by my mom. I had to live at home, take on student loans, and work two jobs to earn my degree. My freaking teeth are still crooked now that I have student loans to pay. I see the same kind of treatment with our respective wives. She is best friends with his wife. Last year she threw a big party for her birthday, while my wife did not even get a card. My wife is not a bad person by any stretch of the imagination. Being with her has given me tons more confidence, has made me less selfish, and overall made me a nicer guy. I am worried that when we have kids, they will be ignored while my nieces get spoiled rotten by Grandma. Maybe I am just jealous. Any thoughts?
Hi Jshamel:
Congradulations on surviving your mom! And you paid your own way. I am happy for you.
I don’t think things are going to change. I don’t know why, but sometimes people identify with their children and favour them. Perhaps you are most like your mom and you are independent and she sees this and doesn’t baby you, spoil you. Actually I see that you came out ahead. You are open, thoughtful, and hurt too. Thats okay that you see this, and when you have a family you won’t be favouring anyone for sure.
She gave you two gifts. Independence, and insightfulness.
Move along and love the heck out of your honey. You are amazing to have come out so whole…..forgive, and forget, and love.
luv Ava