Why do older women become jealous and bitter when they see an older man with a pretty young thing?

My girlfriend of two years is 19. I’ve copped a lot of abuse from women my age (40s, 50s) and i’ve lost all respect for them. i’ve been called a pervert, a dirty old man, a paedophile, my gf has been called a golddigger and a tart… Ladies, ladies, I understand how younger women, especially an attractive teenager, can be intimidating …. but jealousy and bitterness are not attractive qualities…… frankly, it makes you look pathetic. believe it or not, im attracted to younger women for their personalities….. they are fun, carefree, happy, laid back, trusting, sexually adventurous…. older women are nagging, insecure, and plain scary sometimes.. what older women don’t realize is that younger women are young and pretty but also have better personalities …. why on earth any man would date a older woman who reminds him of his ex wife… i have no clue.. dating a young woman is very rejuvenating for the body and mind…. i feel like i’m 20 years old again. i would highly recommend it to anyone

Younger sisters with older brother, are you ever jealous of the women your brother(s) date?

I don’t mean this in any weird way either, im just wondering if these feelings are normal? I guess it’s just hard bc I thought we were extremely close but now I know that there are things he only tells his gf… Also, any suggestions to better cope with these feelings?? Thanks!

Are other older women like me not?

jealous of younger women? I still find many men sexually attracted to me despite my age. I am 52. I am not looking for a man to make babies with even though tehnically I still can. I interact with men because I enjoy and respect them. I don’t need a guys material possession either, I have my own. I just want a man to share the pleasures of life. My only trouble is getting past the pains other women have caused him.

Does Society “hate on” Polygamists simply because they are jealous of older men having multiple young women ?

I don’t see why else there is such animosity shown to them. If a woman is willing and of legal age, what should it matter if she loves a man twice or even three times her age ?

How to stop being possessive over the girl who dumped me?

I get to see my ex GF who dumped me with some other guy everyday at the workplace and it hurts me more.I’m finding it so hard to accept the fact that she would sleep with some other guy.I really cant imagine how I will feel the day I come to know that she is getting married.How can I just be normal?

How to Stop a Possessive Dog?

What’s the best way to stop a dog from being possessive about a toy? My dog will have fun playing with toys, and will even fetch, but he has a hard time giving up toys that I have given him, and refuses to let go of things that I throw for him to fetch. How can I get him to stop being so possessive?

How can I stop being so possessive?

I’m not possessive of people. But of things I own. Such as my horse, I can’t stand the thought of anyone giving her a treat and getting her to like them, and I have not gone to some wonderful events just so someone else wouldn’t excersize her. I don’t like to share. I can’t stand it when people touch things of mine. And really, I hate being this way! Its so stressful worrying about little things like that all the time! And I’m sure its irritating. How can I not be this way?! And don’t give me the whole ‘Would you like it if someone was like that towards you?’ thing, because I wouldn’t care if someone was this way to me. It wouldn’t even phase me, and I would understand completely.

How can i stop being possessive?

My boyfriend has lied to me a lot. He lied to me again recently and i demanded to know why. He told me that it was because didn’t think i would be happy for him to be spending time with his friends because he sometimes found me to be possessive and controlling. I suffer with depression and do not like spending time alone. I do not have many friends because of the anxiety that socializing causes me. As a consequence i ring him and text him often but i only ask to see him twice a week. I do not understand why he thinks i would not be happy for him to spend time with his friends because i can not see that I have given him reason to think this. I don’t want to give him any reason to lie to me so how can i convince/show him that i am neither possessive or controlling.

What are some good truth questions to ask a guy?

I need some good dirty (sexual) truth questions to ask a guy.
Anything goes for asking.
We are all singles so avoid couple’s questions.

what are some really dirty sexy sex questions to ask a boy?

this guy and i have been talking for a few weeks now and we like to play 20 questions and ask each other really dirty questions its only a matter of time before we get together and go through with some of the things. i really wanna tease the hell out of him and make him as horny as i can tho before we get together. we’ve already asked about dick size, weird sex places, etc i need something different but still fun and dirty to ask him… please help!!

What are some really good sexual questions to ask a guy?

We are playin the dirty question game and I ran out.of questions? Help

dirty questions to ask a guy.?

this guy said ask some sexual questions and he asked what would you do if we were in a room alone together and stuff like that
so i need some ideas to ask him.

I’m so jealous of my boyfriends ex!?

I‘ve been extremely jealous of my boyfriends ex since we started dating.
She’s popular, and she’s so beautiful. She’s a model and there is nothing NOT perfect about her in my eyes.
It bothers me alot, because I feel like my boyfriend is secretly more attracted to her than me.
I feel ugly compared…

How can I stop being jealous?

How can I stop being so jealous of his ex!?

It’s driving me insane! My boyfriend has a lot of ex-girlfriends but one in particular gets on my nerves because she…
1.) was his last long-term relationship
2.) met his dad before he died
3.) is often mistaken for his girlfriend when they are together because they both love each other as friends and so they are very touchy-feely. (He told me about this and I was too nervous to tell him that that would make me EXTREMELY uncomfortable if I saw it happen.)
4.) is closer to my age than most of his exes
5.)…and…as pathetic as this sounds…she seems more interesting than me…he talks about her a lot and she’s got more in common with him than I probably do…and she got him to be more open sexually…
6.) she is very attractive

HOW DO I STOP OBSESSING OVER THIS!?!?!??!?!??!?!? I am fully aware of how insane I am being but it’s so hard for me to stop! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A few things I forgot to mention: They dated 3 years ago, it mainly ended because she is polyamourous and he is monogamous.

How Can I Stop Being Jealous Over My Ex?

I was dating this 13 year old girl for maybe a week (i am 15 years old) i felt attracted to her at first then i dont know something happened and i just wasn’t attracted to her anymore so i broke up with her.

recently however i considered asking her back out as i guess im sort of a lonely kid.

i find out that she has a new boyfriend who’s 16 which i think is wrong and to make matters worse this guy is a pot smoker and a stoner which i dont think is good for her but i cant really say anything.

recently i‘ve been feeling overly jealous and i normally don’t
how can i stop myself from feeling jealous when i see them at school?

How can I stop being jealous? Paranoid jealous?

Quick summary of the bits you need to know:

My boyfriend had a really bad bout of manic bipolar this past summer. The mania got really bad and he left me then hooked up with a girl from high school that he had started talking to a lot on FB. We got back together said he had changed his ways. I believed him and it was true. Don’t worry about details, just know where I‘m coming from.

Now we’ve been so busy with work and school and family that I feel we’ve grown apart since we haven’t been seeing each other lately. He’s moving into a new apartment, he heard it was available cause it was owned by this acquaintance of his on FB a couple weeks before.

He gets it, Moves in, now when he posts something about it she’s always got 2 cents to put. And is talking about how her ex boyfriend put the dents in the front door, and how he’s jealous of my boyfriend because he’s crazy and thinks they are cheating together.

1) I really don’t like them talking about this all over facebook.
2) I am very jealous and it was the end of me and my boyfriends date night tonight and he reads the newest comment from her and answers it. Then when I‘m telling him goodnight I see that just before he texted me he replied to another one of her comments.

I know he’s not cheating on me, because she moved 2000 miles away. But how can I get rid of this paranoia that he’s going to leave me or she’s trying to pry him away from me. I just find it so rude that they’re discussing cheating and shit all over facebook and I can‘t seem to look away. It’s really upsetting me, which I know is wrong and I want to know how to stop! Should I ask her to not talk about that stuff?
Also I can‘t really confront him about it, because I trust him and I see him trying to steer the convo away but she keeps bringing up details and stuff. And if i were to confront him he would see it as I don’t trust him. I really want to know how to either get rid of this ridiculous paranoid jealousy or how to stop this discussion of theirs if that’s what you feel is necessary.

How to get over being jealous when boyfriend hangs out with his friends?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years, and we both are insecure individuals.
One of my insecurities stems from the fact that I have very little, to no friends at all. I’m not anti-social, but I’m not the life of the party, either. I’m very self-conscious and always feel judged by other people.

As a result, I do virtually all my clothes shopping online to avoid going out and getting them, I don’t hang out with my boyfriend and his friends whenever I get invited because I know I’ll feel like a loser just sitting there while they drink and play pool…before my boyfriend met me he told me he was seeing his friends every weekend and even sometimes on weekdays. Now for the past year and a half, he’s essentially turned down all their invites because he knows I don’t feel comfortable going. He tells me that it’s not a problem— that his friends are still his friends and they’re not going anywhere, but I still feel terrible.

It’s only been recently that he’s started telling me and showing me all of the texts his friends send him asking him to come hang out; he says he never did before because he didn’t want me to get hurt. I’m glad that he’s showing me how his friends still care, but at the same time it hurts a lot.

We’ve been talking, and I’ve been telling him how I want him to start going out with his friends again. Though he understands where I’m coming from and recognizes the fact that it makes me uncomfortable to be around his friends, he tells me that he’s still hesitant to go because he doesn’t want me to become mad or upset. In the past I’ve been very jealous when he’s gone out without me, even though I know he can’t (and shouldn’t) spend every waking hour with me.

How can I start being more secure with myself and happy for my boyfriend when he goes out without me?

**As an aside, I’ve asked him how it makes him feel to picture me going out with girlfriends/friends without him and he told me he would feel “alright” about it depending on where we were and what we were doing. And when I asked him the same question pertaining to my family he said he’d be okay with it and wait for me to come home or going with me.

He’s very protective of me when I’m not with him.

if i break up with my boyfriend, can i still hang out with his friends?

before we started dating, i didn’t really have any friends, but when i started dating him he introduced me to all of his friends and they thought i was pretty cool. i think they’re pretty cool, too. however, i’ve lost feelings for my boyfriend and i don’t like him anymore. if i break up with him, i wouldn’t really have any friends anymore, and if i don’t, i’ll have friends but will be unhappy doing things i don’t want to do with someone i don’t like. i know this is a really stupid question, but any advice is appreciated. if i break up with my boyfriend, would i not be able to hang out with their social group anymore, at all?

Am I right to be angry with my boyfriend who still hangs out with his friend who hit on me?

A while ago, when my boyfriend, his friend and I were hanging out, his friend hit on me. It started out with compliments and winking at me when my boyfriend wasn’t looking and then he put his hand on my thigh and rubbed up against me. It made me really uncomfortable and at the end of the night I told my boyfriend and he said he hadn’t noticed. My boyfriend told me he asked his friend about it and his friend denied it and then after some time his friend finally said he was sorry about it. I think he is a creep and it makes me angry that he still hangs out with this guy who felt me up. I would think that a normal guy would want to tell a thing or two to someone who did that to their girlfriend. My boyfriend just says that it’s not a big deal. Any guys have any opinions about this? Should I be angry that my boyfriend still hangs out with his creep or should I let it go?

My boyfriend never invites me to hang out with his friends?

We’ve hung out with my friends many times, but now that’s its summer we are able to hang out by ourselves more often. However, we have hung out with ONE of his friends, once. He never invites me to hang out with his friends. it’s not that I don’t want to, because if he invited me I would in a heart beat. We have been going out for six months. Sometimes it makes me feel like he is embarrased of me even though he tells me all the time that I am beautiful. We don’t hang out with my friends as much as we did in the school year, but we still do sometimes. I’ve never asked him about this, though. Should I? How would I bring it up?

Flirty questions to ask my boyfriend… plz hlp?

my bf and i play the question game and we ask questions bak and forth contiuously and its my turn and im runnin out of questions that arent cheesey o

what are some fun, random questions to ask my boyfriend?

just like fun, flirty, or random questions to ask him? (ex if tomorrow was ur last day, how would u spend it?) things like that.. haha thanks!! : )

FLIRTY QUESTIONS TO ASK HIM?!?!?

OKAY, I’M TALKING TO MY BOYFRIEND ON THE PHONE, WE ARE PLAYING THE “QUESTIONS GAME” WHAT ARE SOME FLIRTY THINGS I COULD ASK HIM??

nothing like to dirty haha [=

thanks!?

fun/random questions to ask my boyfriend?

just like fun, flirty, or random questions to ask him? (ex if tomorrow was ur last day, how would u spend it?) things like that.. haha thanks!! : )

Why does my boyfriend hate when I post things on his face book?

Whenever I make a comment on his face book he either writes “…” in response or he’ll write “get off my thread” in response, which really pisses me off! How come all his friends can post comments but I can’t? And some of you may be thinking I post bad things on his page, but I don’t! I write what anyone else would write normally in response to his things. Yet when he sees that “I” posted it, rather than a friend of his, he gets all nasty about it. WHY?????

What to do when parents hate boyfriend?

I am a 20 year old college student who never gets into trouble. I have been dating the msot wonderful man for almost a year now and I am sure I want to marry him. I know I am young, but I make my choices wisely. I am planning on going to graduate school starting fall 2012 and plan on going out of state. My parents want to move where I move and normally it would not stress me out but seeing as how they hate him, it does. The only reason the refuse to accept him is that he is of a different race. I have stopped caring because it really is a personal issue since he has done nothing to hurt me but only treats me like a queen. He is planning on moving where I go to graduate school or at least will be visiting me alot and vice versa. My issue is if they still continue to hate him, should I tell them they are more than free to not be a part of a big portion of my life? Help!

what should i do when my best friend and boyfriend hate each other?

It is affecting my relationship with my best friend because he is a jerk to her and he thinks that she is really annoying. I don’t know what to do because i love both of them dearly. And if i don’t break up with him i may lose her but i still love him a lot. HELP!!!!

Why does my boyfriend hate it when I hang out with his estranged family?

Guys:Is he interested in me or not what do you think?

I think I might like this guy. We met randomly in this accommodation forum for university. I think one of us responded to a post then we just kept asking questions to each other. Then started private messaging each other an speaking online everyday since then we happen to want to go to the same university. We have so much in common with each other, are conversations flow easily and can be random. We do have a few differences but we’re more similar than different. We’ve spoken about everything goals , course in uni we want to take , after uni , travelling, fears , football , family , childhood,school except love/sex. We constantly call each other weird.He lives in England and me Ireland . I’m 17 him 18 .we’ll meet in university otherwise he said he still wants to meet me . He always sleeps earlier than me I sleep later and he wants to sleep later then me to beat me. Yesterday he was saying something about football then I was saying how I know nothing about football. Then he said “haha if we both go here I could teach you about football and you can teach me how to stay awake at night til 1/2am;)” Is that him just flirting or did he mean like spend the night together???? I was telling him how I skipped my last class and was late he said “haha aren’t you getting naughty always late to school and now skipping lessons if only your mum knew how bad you are .Later on I asked did you still expect to be speaking to me now we’ve been speaking for 3 months? he said “It’s gone so fast haha of course I still expected to be talking to you now, we send messages pretty much everyday ” and asked me the same I said how I though he would’ve have gotten bored of me and he said the same and I called him interesting and he said “Thanks for calling me interesting:D you’re quite interesting as well that’s why I’m still talking to you after 3 months” Does he like flirting with me. Do we talk more like friends or a couple?

What would you describe this person as..?

Ok.. well i dont realy know how i act/am toward other people soo can you guys read this info and tell mee what i sound like to you! here i goo…

well im A teen!! im 13 andd i like making new friends I like to make people laugh im ME original.. and a freak but i consider myself as weird too!! im realy into astrolagy and i like flirting with guys lol!…
i like to keep it cool and calm easygoing etc..
i feel like a loner sometimes i do have friends but i feel no one understands me ,
i like to go on the laptop like all day lol!
i like playing on the xbox,ds all kinds of gaming consoles lol
people tell me im girly but deep down inside i realy consider myself as a girly kinda tomboy
when i get a guy i dont know what to do with him!..i just move on and find someone else because the relashionship gets boring lol,
im tall and have been told i look 16/17 i dont look my age basicaly,
im no good at math i just drift away in lesson and start talking to peoplebecause i get bored!
im REALY good at art! and love singing and DRAMA! .
I can be abit bossy … i have to be the leader of my friends/group or ELSE i walk off doing my OWN THING !! because i LOVE being independent!! ,
i am a fighter!!, but.. i need a little more confidence..
i am INCREDIBLY SHY!! and don’t know what to do about it!! (random) im weird and random tooo…LOL :p
some other girls hate me! for no reason dont realy know why but im guessing its because im weird,
i love socialising going on facebook .. msn twitter formspring etc..
i have a bb lol
i have been told that i make people laugh! im naughty in lesson i dont ever pay attention! and then i ask my friend what to doo lol lol
i asked this question because i got bored.com LMFAO
i fancy older guys than me like 20/tooo 27ish year olds dont know why LOL

IM ATTracted tooo!…guys that are
. CONFIDENT!
.Not too stuck to me as in i like them to be indipendent and cool!
.a tall boy not too tall! with nice eyes! and a cute smile!
.a boy that smells NICE! <3
.a boy that can talk to me normaly ! and be themselves
. someone that can make me LMFAO make me laugh!! alot!
. i like a stubborn funny abit freaky guyy!!

and… thats about it theirs more but yeah cba to write maynn!!!
so tell ME! how am i? what comes in MIND to you!? be honest because i would realy like to know!
much love !!………………….. lol

How evil are you? . . . . Kinda long . . . But fun =]?

My R.E teacher made us a quiz to do in class to see how evil we were.
For question 2, Community service at my school is basically punishments. Lets say that that punishment is scraping the chewing gum off from under the desks.
Enjoy =]

1). It’s the first day of school. You arrive only to find out that all the new year 7’s have taken your hang out spots. You . . .
a) … calmly find a space in another part of school.
b) … Grumble under your breath and find a spot elsewhere.
c) … Leave to find a spot elsewhere shouting about how rude the year 7’s are the entire time.
d) … Push them off stating that this spot is yours and they had better watch out for the rest of the year!.

2). You accidentally arrive late to first lesson and the teacher immediately sends you to behaviour support. The put you on community service. You …
a) … apologize repeatedly, but except fate, after all you were late. You ask to have your work sent down for the lesson you missed.
b) … Storm out quietly, slamming the door.
c) … Quickly rise to your feet and point menacingly at behaviour support, shouting something along the lines of “You’ll live to regret this!”
d) … Growl lowly and put a magical spell on the whole school making everyone ill. How dare they treat you like this!

3). Well, half the year has gone by (And pretty quickly at that). The Christmas break is upon you. The time is 11:55 at night on 24th December. You are …
A) … Asleep, dreaming of … gumdrops and stuff.
B) … Pretending to be asleep, keeping an eye open. Believing in Father Christmas’ immediate arrival.
C) … Are just finishing talking to your friend on how the name Santa is just Satan rearranged. Coincidence … I think not!
D) … Are thinking up your next move on that harsh teacher that made you do community service. Possibly something involving a series of mysterious notes stating, “I know what you did last September.”

4). World …
A) … Peace.
B) … Wrestling Federation. (You know, that thing with guys in tights holding each other).
C) … Domination.
D) … Destruction.

5). Your friend just called you and invited you over to meet her new boyfriend. When you arrive you realise that your friend is dating the guy you really like, you get pretty jealous. What do you do?
A) Ask to be excused. You don’t want to jeopardize your friendship.
B) Let your mind wonder, imagining it was you they were really going out with and not your friend.
C) Start hitting on your friends boyfriend when your friend leaves the room.
D) Kidnap him. Write a series of clues to your friend that have no real purpose or meaning, and convince her boyfriend they can do so much better.

6). After a long day, you arrive home and turn on the stereo. A random CD plays. What is it?
A) Popular stuff
B) Rap stuff
C) Emo stuff
D) Death metal

8). You and your friends are trying to decide what to do with the weekend. You offer an idea but your friends instead decide to do something you really didn’t want to do. You …
A) … Decide that you may as well just go along with things.
B) … Whine and complain the entire night, but enjoy it eventually.
C) … Leave the group and decide ‘real’ friends would always do what you want to do.
D) … Threaten them with a baseball bat and shout at them until they go with you to what you wanted to do AND force them to all say that your idea really was best all along.

Mostly A’s: Nice as Pie! You are anything but evil! A kind, considerate friend who lives in a caring sharing world of pink fluffy clouds where the sun always shines. The miss goody two shoes routine may impress your parents and teachers but make sure people don’t take advantage of your kind nature! Be sure to be heard and stand up for what you want every now and then.

Mostly B’s: Naughty but Nice! You’re a girl who knows what she wants and will go out and get it … providing it doesn’t get you in trouble of course! You definitely have an evil streak but only your closest friends will ever see it, and they will love you for it all the same!

Mostly C’s: Moaning Myrtle! You think that the world centres around you and want everyone to know it! Although your evil streak is obvious to everyone else, to you it seems perfectly reasonable that people should bow down to your greatness and bend over backwards to help you get your own way, even if it means hurting someone else! It’s like there’s an evil essence in the air, but nobody ever seems to realise you’re the cause. You’re menacing and manipulative, but you play innocent so well that you always get away with things. Even if people notice the evil glint in your eye, they tend to mistake it for a friendly sparkle.

Mostly D’s: Evil Genius! You’re the most evil person you know. The devil is even a little scared of you! Whenever you’re around, the sun goes behind a cloud. Now that we know the truth about you, we’re going to back away without directly looking right at you. Please don’t hurt us!

So . . . How evil are you?

=]
There is no 7 . . . My teacher put 8 instead of 7 . . . Which I didn’t happen to notice =D

Repost: Need advice Is my crush acting differently cause of hearing about my sexual life?

Well we met on a chess site and we of course we have met irl as well so I know he’s not creepy and all. He’s 20 and I’m 17. We live 1 hour away but we meet on every weekends mostly. We have known each other for a year now and we never spoke about our personal lives much. We always talk random things but yeah we were kinda close.

Last week, in the chess site (where we chat everyday), he asked me if he can make the chat awkward and i was like yeah. He asked me if i have had sex before which he knows already that I have so i was like yeah? and he asked me what penis size i prefer and i was like trying to avoid the question cause i might offend him if his was smaller or sumthin, idk. He literally like persuaded me so much, that i had to tell and he said he felt so manly (so i guess his was bigger). He then asked me if i had to stop the guy in the middle of sex…and i answered yes. Then he asked me why cause the girls he was with sometimes told him to stop who weren’t his gfs so he felt weird askin them. But yeah, the next day, he umm like told me he sometimes imagine me naked in his room and us having sex cause we chat naughty and he imagines it. I was creeped out but was kinda alright cause I really really like him. Then he asked me if i watch pornos and masturbate which i had to admit. He was like WOW. Cause this was chat, i couldn’t see his expressions. I then asked him if he thinks of me any different to which he replied, “yes, you are a self pleasuring porno watcher that likes to fornicate” LOL but yeah then he said these actually makes us kinda close.

But the next few days, he isn’t accepting my chat reqs or comin to meet me to which he makes excuses as he’s working or has hw. I wanna make him talk to me again properly, is there any way? Also, he now always plays chess in the site and doesn’t really chat while i give more imp to him. Can i like try hard to get or something? I’m so confused. We hadn’t met in a week

How do I stop my jealous feelings?

My best friend, who is a girl hangs out with all types of people like I do, but for some reason when I see her with other guys I just cant help but feel jealous. I do know that I might have feelings for her, but I can’t tell her anything about that yet. So until then please tell me a way to get over my jealousy long enough until im ready to tell her.
Im a guy. I forgot to say that, sorry. Plus, I try to hang around the same people she does ,guys or girls, but It makes me seem to desperate sometimes to talk to her

How do I stop these jealous feelings towards husband’s son?

I have been slated by people on here when mentioning this before… by those who have no understanding of the situation, & I am trying to change.

My husband & I have been married for a short time & I am 19weeks pregnant. My husband was thrilled when we found out. I am 40, he is 39. I have an 18yr old, he has a 19yr old.

My son moved in with my parents just before we married (for reasons too complex to go into). My stepson lives with us, but was due to live with his mum in June (NOT because I’m trying to get rid of him). My stepson loves his mum very much & she had been asking him to live with her for a while.

To start with I got on well with stepson. I made food I knew he liked, bought gifts etc. He goes to college 2 days a week & his dad decided that Connor should do the washing up on his days off as his chore. Now I do the washing up daily… when I mentioned this to hubby he said I was an adult, his son was a child so I should shut up. His son now ignores me… he comes into the room & asks “do you want anything dad” yet refuses to look at me. I’d always complimented my hubby on how polite his son is, now I mention how he ignores me, even if I talk to him, and my husband goes mad.

My husband calls my son “darling”, won’t have a bath unless his son is here, so he can go into the bathroom with him. talks about how we should raise our child, and names etc. Anytime I complain he tells me his son is his only family, his best friend and that he’d prefer it if I left so they could have fun like they used to before I came along.

We have a small 2 bed house & to start with, when his son was going to leave, this would have been OK. When I realised this was unlikely to happen I suggested getting a 3bed house, which my husband had been offered. My husband refused… saying that he’s not sure what he wants….

I really don’t want to live with a baby in this small house, with his Son who lives the toilet filthy, my husband running around wiping his son’s nose (his son can’t cook or do his washing at 19). I spend every night crying. I did ask if his son could stay with his mum when the baby is born to give us some bonding time with the baby. Husband refuses saying that it’s half-sibling & he wants his best friend to experience it with us…. while I can empathise I don’t agree. I’m happy for his son to see the baby… but I don’t agree that his son should be around 24/7 to share our experience (I know this is awful of me)… we’re a new family & of course his son will always be part of it… I’m not arguing that… I just want some time alone with the two of us & our new baby… who has two parents not three. I feel desperate as my feelings are not thought of. His mum would happily have him as his college would have finished for the year… I can’t bear the thought of my husband having baths with his son, cooking for his son, staying up till 3am with his son playing games, while I’m tending to a newborn.

We’ve also come to blows regarding guardians for the baby. My husband has disowned his family & his next of kin are his son & his ex-wifes sister. He wants his son or ex sis-in- law to be guardian… I don’t. I want my sister who is marred with a young child & has already said would encourage his son to visit. That way my son would also be involved. His son would take my child to a different part of the country to be with his mum… who I’ve never met. My husband is cool with this as I think he still loves his ex… as I’m feeling the baby move & will be the one pushing it our I don’t want it brought up by some kid who hates me & never seeing my family.

I’m also worried about the delivery as my husband has said I can’t have an epidural as his ex didn’t. I don’t want him to watch the head come out, he won;t be there if he’s not allowed, plus he says he’s not there for me but to watch his child be born… I rally want someone there who loves me & supports me… right now I feel like a surrogate or incubator as opposed to a wife… how to change how I feel?

I also want to add I love my son very, very much & we get on great now (there are reasons unrelated to my husband that he moved in with my parents). So I understand about kids coming first.. yet my hubby has an exclusive relationship with his son that excludes me
All good points that i have thought about… yet my husband REFUSES to have my son around & hates him… so I don’t feel like I should try to too hard with his son anymore… I do get annoyed when people way I should have realised before we married that he had a son… so do I .. who now wants to live with me. My stepson has a mum… my son only has me… so I’m sick of hearing how I should be nice to his son, while my poor baby is left out in the cold
Also surely staying with a husband who bad mouths my son will only teach the baby to its half-brother… why should i stay around & try to be nice to his son… when my own flesh & blood is bad mouthed & treated like crap?

How do you stop feeling jealous?

I recently started seeing this girl, we aren’t really a ‘couple’ yet but we go on dates and do stuff couples do. The thing is that she is a more gregarious person then I am and she is friendly with a lot of people and is always going out. Meanwhile I’m stuck at home studying or just sitting by myself.

I don’t mind this at all, she can have a social life or whatever, but whenever she tells me she is going to a party, I get extremely jealous because I know she’s going to be around other guys and don’t really know if she is going to be making out with them or something like that. I try to let these jealousy feelings go and trust her, but I have trust issues and I get uncontrollably angry. How can I stop these feelings from happening? It’s getting really bad and I don’t want them to somehow ruin any chances I have with this girl.

how to stop being jealous?

well you see i know your best friend can have other friends too. i now that because i have a lot of other friends besides my best friend. but why is it that whenever my BFF hangs with her other friends, that I get jealous? like a few days ago, she invited this other girl to the movie theatre instead of me, and i couldn’t help it but i got so mad inside!!! i really want to stop these feelings of jealousy!!! How???

how do i trust my boyfriend when he hangs out with his friends that show him naked girls and talk about them.?

am i just supposed to trust him to look away if he says he will, or to change the subject when they bring sexual stuff like that up in their conversations. This happens all the time when we hang out with friends. if i feel like i always have to worry i cant enjoy life. he doesnt want to change his friends cause they have known each other for ever. so do i trust or can i not trust?

In a relationship, how do you work on not being so jealous when he hangs out with his guy friends?

So I don’t mind him hanging out with his freinds at all because I am not old enough to go out drinking with them at the bars and I know he likes to drink, but when we are hanging out his friends will ask him to do something. Is it wrong of me to be upset that he decides to go without me? I know that they are his freinds but we are hanging out and he leaves. It bothers me because he leaves me with no time to make plans of my own and then i scramble for plans and i hate it. What can I do to not be so agitated that that happens?

i have a house guest and he is very disrespectful and he always hangs out with his friends?

he always hangs out with this friends 24/7 and he gets drunk and doesnt ever come to my grnadmothers house and he comes and goes as he pleases and he messes up his room. what should she do????!!!!

What do I do when i want to talk to a guy but he hangs out with his other friends?

Ok…so i like this guy…a lot. and he talks to me during lunch and i like it just me and him but sometimes he leaves to hang out with his other friends and i feel jealous and he sometimes walks with me after school but he goes with his other friends sometimes and i just wanna walk and talk with him like yeah…uh what should i do im really confused!